You are fixing to hear everyone start talking about resolutions and promising to cut the carbs, hit the gym, and finally get their shit together.
It will be tempting to join that bandwagon.
Everyone will sit around looking back at all the failed diets, declaring on January 1 it all changes.
Here’s the problem.
If this worked it would have worked LAST YEAR.
The cycle of beat-myself-up-for-my-failures then
go-balls-to-the-wall then run-out-of-steam-the-first-night-Margaritas-are-half-off?
No. It doesn’t work.
You know this already. I’m just reminding you because I want this year to be different for you.
Wanna know what’s more productive than making a bunch of bullshit promises you know you’ll never keep?
Start here: Learn from your past.
The fastest way to lose weight is to look at the past for what works and what doesn’t work for you.
In other words: Learning from past diets is the most productive and easiest way to make 2020 the year you finally start losing your weight for good.
Wanna know how this works?
We go deep into the BEST way to use the lessons of 2019 to make 2020 the year you lose your weight. Make sure you listen to the podcast this week. Consider it an early Christmas gift.
Show Notes Episode 141: What I Learned About Weightloss in 2019
People typically wait until January 1st to start any type of weightloss effort. They start strong and then get off track, quit, and wait another year to get started.
The tribe has a course called No B.S. and there are questions that you answer every single day about their life and their goals.
People don’t spend enough time thinking about what is going right in their life and thinking about short-term, mid-term, and long-term goals. If you aren’t spending time thinking about this, then you are likely just looking at how life is going wrong and how you’re not getting what you want. If you’re just focusing on what is going on, it makes you afraid to dream.
It takes effort to look at what is going right. It is worth it to write down every single day five things that went right that day.
If you don’t like yourself, achieving something isn’t going to make you like yourself. You practicing how to find the good in you is how you eventually like you. Once you like yourself, it’s so much easier to achieve things in life.
How do you go through the process of what worked and what didn’t?
Corinne does this with her life and her business. It is really easy to get consumed with all the things she isn’t doing or what is wrong, so she has to make an effort to look at what is going right.
In 2019, did you get your weightloss goal? Yes or no? Why? Did your brain go to “I failed” or did it start listing the reasons why?
Before you figure out anything about 2019, you need to come up with 5 things that went right this last year. You can add “I found this podcast” to your list 🙂
A lot of times when listing why someone didn’t lose their weight this year, they’ll say “I’m out of control” or “I’m a failure” or “I can’t get my shit together” or “I’m too broken” or “there’s no hope for me” or “I’ll never get this.”
There is a difference between a process problem and a “me” problem. If you make it about a deficiency in yourself, you’re never going to solve your problems.
Corinne wants you to be able to look at 2019 and whether you hit your goal or missed it, she wants you to look at the processes that you did. The moment you understand that you hit a goal is because you’re doing or not doing, then all you have to fix is the doing.
If you think you’re broken or a loser or never going to get it, then you need to work on your self-worth, self-regard, and inner talk.
If your self-worth is broken, no amount of diets you buy will work if you think you’re broken. If you believe you’re broken, you won’t see any of the actions you did or didn’t do because your whole focus is on yourself.
Do you remember you 2019 goal? If you don’t, then you need to write down your goal every single day in 2020, so that it is on your mind every single day.
#1 Write down the 5 things that went right in 2019
It may not mean weightloss. Maybe you listened to podcasts or read some books. Maybe you changed some of your eating patterns.
Look at your progress. Just because you didn’t hit goal, if you still made progress, that’s still a win! Focus on the things you’re doing because that will show how you’re thinking about yourself.
Maybe you binged less in the last year.
Spend more time figuring out how you’re winning.
Things Kathy did right in 2019: 1. She’s a High Performance Certified Coach; 2. She had two weeks of personal development training this year; 3. Her public speaking has gotten so much better; 4. She read three books (John Maxwell’s Invaluable Laws of Growth, Karen Koenig’s The Rules of Normal Eating, and Brendon Burchard’s High Performance Habits).
Things Corinne did right in 2019: 1. The change in relationship with Logan (she grew as a mother); 2. PNP camp experiences grew so much for the campers and Corinne; 3. Growth in PNP this year (a lot of people have joined because it’s an amazing program #tribeforlife); 4. The amount of women in the Century Club that have lost over 100 pounds; 5. Her husband left his day job to work full-time with her on PNP.
Corinne spent a lot of time looking at her life and appreciating it. When you sit around and look at all the things you love in your life, you often don’t realize it’s because you created it. When you think of something you love about your life, follow it up with “and I created this.”
#2 Where did you want to be on December 31st?
If you don’t remember where you wanted to be, then you need to make an effort to write down your goals daily. When things are going wrong, that’s when you need to remind yourself of your goals, otherwise you might be in even a worse situation a year from now.
#3 Where are you now?
Write in a non-judgmental way about where you are now. I weigh this. I eat this.
This doesn’t just have to be about weightloss. You can apply this to money, to your job, to your relationships.
#4 Why are you here?
What do you think got you here? Create a list with two columns. The first column is all the things that went right that got you here. The second column is the reasons things didn’t go right. For all the reasons going right, list out the actions that you’re doing that make it true. For all the things not going right, list out the actions needed to make it go right.
When you see these actions, ask yourself “what are three things that I can do to get this done?”
For example, if you’re wanting to join the tribe when it opens on December 29th, what are three things you need to do? 1. If you haven’t taken the free course, you need to sign up to take it at www.pnp411.com. 2. You need to save money, it is $289 to join. 3. Listen to the podcast so that you’re up to speed on what Corinne teaches.
Don’t sit around saying “I don’t know what to do” instead put your brain to work at what three things you can do to get closer to your goals.
Tribe members, there is a “How to get your shit together for 2020” call on December 30th. You’ll figure out an action plan and Corinne will be answering questions and coaching.
If you have an accountability group, do some of this work with your accountability groups.
Happy Holidays! Listen to the Thanksgiving podcasts if you need some guidance on how to handle the end of year holidays. Don’t throw everything away and eat like a crazy person and wait till January 1st to start over. January 1 is not magic, the rest of the year can be magic. Go in with a plan. Ask yourself how you want to feel tomorrow.