Are you overwhelmed and exhausted? Many women are. I hear it from my clients…daily!
“I’m depressed and don’t know how to snap out of it.”
“I’m in a rut with my food and exercise. Am I alone?”
“I seem so disconnected these days to the people I love most.”
I can tell you I felt the same for years. Sometimes I still do. I’ve had to face depression for over 20 years. From suicide attempt to just general blues I get what it means to feel truly depressed.
Overwhelming. Exhausting. Hopeless. Alone. Unable to breathe fully.
That had a lot do with why I weighed 250 pounds. I always knew I wanted to lose weight but couldn’t do it or keep it off.
I didn’t meet myself where I was. Each attempt to lose weight was about shaming myself into the person I wanted to be. I avoided spending time with Corinne and who SHE was right then.
You want to know how to lose weight or get out of depression? Quit being in a hurry to stop it. Really be present with where you are RIGHT NOW and what you CAN do today.
I recently had a client reach out to me. Well, she is more than a client. She’s a dear friend to me that started as a client.
Kathy attended a live workshop where I taught how I lost my weight. She went home and met herself right where she was.
She changed her foods slowly instead of buying another diet book. She moved in a way her arthritic and weak knee could handle instead of hiring a trainer to whip her ass. Steady changes that allowed her to change physically and emotionally.
70 pounds later and some maintenance under her belt, she has faced major blows in 20 days. Her father suddenly passed away, her husband was laid off when they returned from the funeral, and then her uncle died. All at Christmas because what’s tragedy without a little evil twist?
I asked her to write about what we talked about for a beautifully written guest blog. If you find some peace from it please leave a comment. It always helps people to know when others are feeling the same or stronger because of their words.
How Do You Define Overwhelm and Exhaustion?
I was contemplating my work-out today and texted Corinne with my plan. “Do you really think I can do this today? My body feels so tired.” You see, I’ve had a pretty tough couple of weeks.
Her response, “Does it feel doable?”
Does that feel doable? Not really. In fact, not much of anything feels doable today.
I describe myself as emotionally exhausted. But here’s the kicker – being emotionally exhausted, or overwhelmed, does not mean I am physically exhausted.
It means that my thoughts of sadness and worry, are driving feelings of overwhelm, which is creating actions of inaction, which are resulting in more thoughts of sadness and worry.
Remember the model? Yeah – this life coaching stuff really does fit here!
I am told that just because my emotions are overworked and overwhelmed, it doesn’t mean that my body is. In fact, my body should be really good and rested since I haven’t worked it very hard the past couple of weeks.
It’s these thoughts that have taken over and created a story that my brain is creating evidence for.
So how do I stop the spiral?
I work on creating new evidence.
I refocus and recommit to my goals.
I set aside worry and overwhelm for the short time it takes to complete my workout.
I put one foot in front of the other, hold my head up high, and find the thoughts, feelings, and actions that take care of me when I need to take special care of me.
So after work today, I’ll head to the gym and knock out three miles at new intervals. I’ll create some good, hard evidence that I am going to be okay physically AND emotionally.
I’ll work on a new coaching model – one that finds results that are positive and that I can carry into tomorrow and the next day.
I’ll start re-writing the story.