“How do I get my husband to eat healthy?”
“My kids don’t want to eat better. How do you change them?”
Ever asked yourself this? Man, I have. Y’all would be shocked at how opposite Chris and I are in terms of “health.”
He thinks about the gym and gives himself a check mark in the exercise column. I mean hell, THAT took mental energy! Now where’s the beer to celebrate those calories burned!
I kid, but I spent years worrying about Chris. I worried about him not working out, worried about him eating burgers at Ruby Tuesday with a side of rice (because I honestly think he sees it as ordering a vegetable), and worried he was skipping breakfast and lunch most days.
My worry led to making his lack of what I would consider “good effort” a statement about his love for me.
“If you loved me you would take care of yourself.”
“Don’t you know how hard it is for me to stay motivated to eat well when you aren’t?”
“Why do you insist on not working out? I’ll give you a plan! You are married to a trainer for God’s sake!”
Nag. Nag. Nag.
The only person killing their health was me! My MENTAL HEALTH!
Then I realized some amazing things. Chris has run over 10 half marathons and lots of 15K’s, 10K’s, and 5K’s over the 10 years since I lost weight. He’s learned to lift weights because of videos I ordered for me. He may not have done this
He’s been watching, changing, and better off because of changes I made to me. Not because I nagged the crap out of him.
Does he follow my “manual” of what a healthy person does? No. Heck, I don’t even follow my own manual consistently. That’s a blog for another day.
But what he does is quietly observe. Just like Logan, he takes things in and changes over time because of what he sees. He sees me getting my exercise in, sees me eating healthy, sees my excitement when I food prep and layers it in where it is comfortable for him.
My clients recently met me in Vegas to do the Vegas 5K, 10K and Half Marathon. I had people doing all distances. Do you know what impressed me the most? The men.
This race we had so many husbands. And, they were there to join us.
Not because we nagged. Because we’ve been living what we believe. They see us in action which leads them to action.
Some of the men came to cheer because PNP means a lot to their wives. They see what the PNPTribe does for them. Some of them raced because they see how exercise and PNP has made their women strong in body and mind.
So, when you wonder how do you change the people you love most in the world I will tell you this: Walk the Talk. Be the example. Make it livable. Make it fun. Make it a part of who you are. Let them SEE you.
Enjoy these pictures. We had tons of photos from this weekend but these are a few of my favorites.