I read an article from Seth Godin that spoke to me.
“Most people are okay with living with the consequences of what happens.
The hard part is living with our narrative about how it happened and why.
If your plane is late and you miss the meeting and you don’t close the sale, well, you didn’t get the work.
But if your meeting is missed because you planned poorly, the story you tell yourself about why you didn’t get the sale might just be worse than the business impact of not having been to the meeting.
Stress in a typical job isn’t the stress of losing or being killed in action, it’s the stress of imagining the narrative of failure in advance, the self-shaming and the what-ifs. When we leave those out, we get a chance to do our real work, undistracted by drama, cliffhangers and blame.”
I asked my coaches what they thought and, PNPCoach Kathy, wrote this for all of you.
I spent the best part of my adult life overweight. We flew from fast food joint to fast food joint for most of my kids’ growing up years while I worked full time and squeezed in Mom-duties after work.
Looking back I wonder how my life would have been different if I had food prepped and planned like I do now.
As I contemplated losing weight a few years ago, I thought to myself – losing weight is the easy part. I’ve done that so many times! But I had never kept my weight off, and I didn’t believe I would keep my weight off. And that’s not a great way to start a diet adventure, right?
Fast forward about a year and a half. I entered coaching at the tail end of my weight loss so I would have help training for my first half-marathon. I completed the race with Corinne at my side and asked to stay in coaching to learn maintenance. And this is where the work began.
In PNPCoaching, we spend a lot of time talking about diet slips. A diet slip is that time when you eat something you wish you hadn’t – something that wasn’t on plan. It can be an entire meal, a few bites here and there, a binge or some other unplanned event.
Diet slips happen. They happen to me, and they happen to you. What we need to focus on is how we treat ourselves after a slip.
In my earlier adult years, one diet slip ended the diet. I used that as proof that I couldn’t lose weight, and I certainly couldn’t control myself in maintenance. I created a lot of evidence for myself that I was just destined to shop in the big girl section for the rest of my life. I even convinced myself that I liked it there – I didn’t have to worry about all the choices in the rest of the store!
Today, when a diet slip happens, and yes they still happen, I take some time to examine it with openness and curiosity. There’s absolutely nothing to be gained from beating myself up about it, but there’s so much to be gained from learning about WHY I made that choice.
It’s that self examination that I do with kindness that helps me build evidence that I absolutely can maintain my weight loss and I can do it from a place of love for myself.
So I ask you this – what story are you telling yourself when you have a diet slip? Is that story helping you or is it your excuse to give up and give in to more negative self talk? Think about it. Become aware of that voice in your head.
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