Are you stuck in the…
PAST DIET CYCLE OF HELL?
You want to lose weight.
You are scared you can’t.
You get an ass-full of yourself and Google until you find some totally unrealistic fast weightloss promise.
You get excited.
You have a nagging thought it’s bullshit but you override commonsense.
You are too desperate to listen to your gut.
This time will be different.
It is different…until Thursday.
Your boss yells at you and your best-friend found buy one get one margaritas.
You’ve been so good so you go out knowing you are only supposed to drink celery juice today.
Maybe they have Bloody Mary’s?
F-it moment arrives.
Eat, drink, and wake up Friday feeling like a failure.
Spend the weekend wondering why nothing ever works for you.
GIRL!!!! This is a pattern that must be broken.
Today’s podcast is all about how to break the cycle.
How do you quit breaking diets?
How do you stop thinking you must go low-carb, keto, or suffer HANGRY to lose weight?
How do you believe you can lose weight SANELY?
That’s what you will learn. Don’t miss it: Why You Need to Forget Your Past Diets.
Podcast #128: Why You Need to Forget About Past Diets
The newbies in the Tribe are working on their future self. Part of the focus will be on the Four Circles and the stages of weight loss. There have been podcasts on both of these concepts previously, see links below.
When we’re dieting a lot of things will come up such as doubt, insecurity, and excitement. We tend to start diets on a similar cycle every time: I’m going to look for a plan, find one that looks like “the one”, get excited, have a last supper meal on a Sunday, do great on Monday, a couple of days later be frustrated with people for eating what you can’t, and Friday be hungry and annoyed.
Your past is your teacher, not your fortune teller.
If you look at your past and this has been the typical diet cycle for you, then you probably won’t make it more than a week on your diet. Most people select diets that make them feel like ass and need relief from them around Friday.
If all week long you’ve been busy and ignoring that you hate your diet, when things slow down on the weekend, you’ll realize you want some relief from the diet.
What are my patterns? How have I started every diet? What did I think?
Excitement will wear out, you have to have something beyond excitement to keep pushing you forward.
What do you do when initial enthusiasm wears off? You need to muster up commitment and steadiness. You have to know how to deal with urges.
Corinne teaches how to be committed when you’re not enthusiastic anymore.
During the future self week, Corinne talks about the four circles and figuring out your “why” or compelling reason. This is the week where people can start sliding into what they’ve always done with diets in the past (lose enthusiasm) and start to question this “diet.” People often think about their future self a year down the line, but not three weeks from now when they might be struggling.
When it comes to making a daily plan, the 17th plan isn’t quite as fun to make as the 1st daily plan.
“Corinne, I’m having some success, but I’m just waiting for the other shoe to drop, when is it going to quit working?”
Past dieting mentality shows up when you notice enthusiasm wear off and you have a hard time with stuff you’re planning. You need to ask yourself “Am I planning like the person I eventually want to be and can live like for the rest of my life or am I planning what I feel I should be eating?” Are you planning realistic meal plans or just broccoli and chicken?
Corinne wanted to lose her weight in a way that she could live the rest of her life. When making a plan, ask yourself: Am I looking forward to it? Does it feel easy? Does it feel like something I can do?
Corinne talked to two Tribe members recently that we’re stalled 20 pounds from goal (after losing quite a bit of weight) and they had to work through whether they really wanted to lose the rest of the weight and figure out what was holding them back. They started out excited and looking forward to their food every day, but were looking at the next 20 lbs as “harder.” They were breaking their plans each day because they decided the rest of the weight was going to be hard to lose. They felt they had to give up comfort to lose the rest, so they spiraled.
Diet mentality states that the only way to get there [goal] is to suffer. Imagine that there’s a way to get to goal without suffering, it can be done. Corinne did it. Kathy did it. Don’t choose to suffer.
Don’t plan your diet by looking at what you did in the past. It did not work. If it had, you wouldn’t be trying to lose weight again.
If you start inserting your “should’s” from your past diets into Corinne’s program, it’s going to blow up in your face and not work.
If your past diet was amazing and felt good, you would have held on to it and maintained your weight. If it feels defeating, hard, daunting, the only option, or desperate, you’re doing it wrong. You might be able to lose it that way, but maintenance will also be a battle from a place of “desperate”. No one wants to live their life feeling desperate.
For the members, listen to the coaching call replays. Also, visit “ask coaches” frequently. When you’re not feeling good about your plan, reach out and get coached. You should feel confident.
Most of us, if we keep doing the same diets out of desperation, will keep getting the same results over and over. Another problem for many women is figuring out who your future self is. If you haven’t allowed yourself to imagine more for yourself in a long time, doing it is not going to come natural and may be very difficult.
If you struggle with envisioning yourself a year from now, start with something smaller. What am I doing today? What am I doing this week? Start with daily goals, then weekly, then monthly, until you feel comfortable planning amazing things for your future. Babystep the vision you want for your future. Don’t let your past failure define you.
What are the new things that I’m willing to try? What are the things I haven’t even thought of yet? What are the things I might be wrong about from my past? What do I want for me? What is it that I want? When you’ve spent your whole life making sure everyone else is taken care of, it’s sometimes hard to know what you want. Write down anything and everything without judgment. You have to allow your brain to think bigger than it is now.
We have to be brave enough to let go of things we always told ourselves are the only things that work for us.
The only way to get a new result is to try something different.
Kathy struggled with the future self-concept for a while but realized that she could start small “I want one pound down on the scale this week” and her brain was able to start work on that.
Corinne is very much a big-picture girl. This year she wanted to focus on more thing for herself (beyond PNP), such as her sub-30 5k goal.
A lot of the reasons people hold on to past diets is the certainty. They’re certain about the short-term results. People like certainty.
Corinne is certain she’s going to enjoy the 5k process and learn a lot and that she’ll give it her all.
We pick goals and we think that’s the important part/the fun part, but it’s not. The fun is when you don’t want to do something, but show up for yourself and do it anyway. The fun is seeing yourself evolve. It’s fun to think that you’re going to figure it out and begin to like the process.