Corinne:
Hi, I’m Corinne. After a lifetime of obesity, being bullied for being the fattest kid in the class, and losing and gaining weight like it was my job, I finally got my shit together and I lost 100 pounds. Each week, I’ll teach you no bullshit weight loss advice you can use to overcome your battle with weight. I keep it simple. You’ll learn how to quit eating and thinking like an asshole. You stop that and weight loss becomes easy. My goal is to help you lose weight the way you want to live your life. If you’re ready to figure out weight loss, then let’s go.
Corinne:
Hello, everyone. Welcome back. So today, Kathy and I are going to be talking about a topic called Underworking versus Overworking. And let me tell you what this means. So, the first thing is that when we are losing weight, one of the things that I noticed back in the day when I was trying to lose 100 pounds and all the years that I battled with my weight, when new people come to me and saw the No BS membership and they start telling me about their diet past. Here, we are in the holiday season and it’s like their diet past comes back to haunt them like Ebenezer Scrooge.
Corinne:
Seriously, it’s like …
Kathy:
Jacob Marley.
Corinne:
Yes.
Kathy:
He’s the hunter.
Corinne:
I know it’s like, “Before we …
Kathy:
Ghost of Christmas past.
Corinne:
Yeah. “Before we start a diet, we’ve got to make sure Corinne knows the ghost of my diet pasts and everything that I failed and how terrible it was, and blah, blah, blah. But I do hear a thousand stories about weight loss history. I hear people tell me all the time shit they’ve done, shit they’ve went through, how they’ve typically started their diets and all kinds of junk. And what I’ve noticed is a common theme. And that is of overworking the system.
Corinne:
And it’s important that you know this because when you overwork in the beginning of trying to lose weight, you are also setting yourself up to possibly quit, especially if every time you started a diet, you have gone gung-ho, did a 180 on every single thing you eat, went from couch surfing to an hour in the gym daily, terrified to miss a moment of sweat. If that’s been your case history, don’t be shocked if you keep repeating this start hard, overwork, and then fizzle fast, and then do nothing.
Corinne:
And I see more people overwork and quit in weight loss than I see people who are willing to come in and do what I call underwork. So, like for me, I used to start diets. They would be super low calorie. I would basically beat myself up and say like, “Oh my God, you’ve been eating like an asshole for so long. You can’t have this. You don’t deserve these things. You’ve had enough blah, blah, blah, blah.” I mean, just totally be down on myself.
Corinne:
And then I would start my restrictions. And then most of the time I’d find a workout plan or go to the gym and I would make myself go every single day sore as hell and go for longer than my body was really ready to go. And then I would just cut out every single thing I loved. So I would go really hard. And I would talk to myself about how anything that I used to do was just terrible. And then the next thing I know, the first time that I missed something, the first mistake that I made, the only thing that I had really practiced was I either got to be perfect killing myself or I’m just a fuckup.
Corinne:
And this is important for you to hear because overworkers, when it comes to diet, tend to use a lot of language of I’m either all on or any sign of the past me is terrible. This is one that … I’ll just get off on a small tangent here. I’ve been playing with this concept of talking about inside the membership about how we have to quit villainizing our past self. Like for me, I had to quit talking about the version of me that overate, that didn’t exercise, that was 250 pounds over and over and over again in her life.
Corinne:
I had to quit acting like something was wrong with her or that she was bad or that she didn’t deserve my respect. Because what happens when you lose weight? Every one of you are going to have this happen. Every single one of you. There’s going to be a day that you don’t do it right. There’s going to be a day you overate. There’s going to be a day that everybody’s going out to eat and you end up going and maybe you get dessert. You don’t even have to just fuck it all. Maybe you just go and you just have something and then you come home and you self-loathe.
Corinne:
The problem with making your old self evil is that any width of that version of you in your current life, if it comes up, you will panic. Because you’ve made that version of you so bad that any sign of an overate or a little bit of feeling out of control, a small mistake, you’ll blow it way out of proportion because you have decided that version of you doesn’t deserve love, that version of you was terrible, that version of you screwed your life, whatever it is that you tell yourself.
Corinne:
So it’s really important that when we’re thinking about overworking, it’s not even just you go all in on doing way too many things way too soon. But you also go all in on thinking that the old version of you, there was like zero redeeming qualities. And you just talk terribly. And so, what I try to encourage people to do, number one, is I want you all doing things from a doable state of mind.
Corinne:
One of the things that I knew when I started losing my weight that had to change was my overworking attitude. My desire to do complete opposite of anything Corrine would do. Did you ever watch Seinfeld?
Kathy:
Yeah.
Corinne:
Okay. Do you remember the episode with George Costanza where it was opposite day, where he was always about how his life is a fuckup and he was just like, “Anything I think I should do, I want to do the opposite?” And he had this amazing day and stuff.
Corinne:
Well, I treated diets like it was opposite day. In my mind, I was a big ass George Costanza and nothing I ever did must have been right. And so, whenever I would start a diet, I was like, “It’s opposite day. If you have eaten fries yesterday, today it’s broccoli,” like everything. Now, it’s funny in a sitcom but it ends up not working.
Kathy:
No.
Corinne:
It ends up being really hard. A lot of us can go opposite day for a while and overwork ourselves. But eventually, what happens is your motivation wanes. The negative self-talk that you think is making you do stuff never really was. A lot of us think that we have to beat ourselves up to lose weight. And this is what I see more commonly.
Corinne:
When you first get started and you’re showing up and you’re doing all the things and blah, blah, blah, it’s not because you’re beating yourself up. It’s because you might be thinking, “Oh my God, I’m so overweight but I’m going to change.” Or you might be thinking like, “Oh my God, I’m such a fuckup. But today, this is what I’m going to do.”
Corinne:
And so in the very beginning, we’re adding these subtle thought shifts that take us from feeling really bad about ourselves to feeling a little bit more focused and directional. But what ends up happening is that over time, when the program and the changes and stuff are not new and it’s more of just what you’re doing, and you’re not curious about them like they’re just not new so you don’t apply a lot of focus, those little thoughts that you slap onto the end of the self-loathing, they drop off. And you’re only left with, “Oh, my God, you’re still so fat. You have so far to go. You’ve always screwed up.”
Corinne:
So, you’re just left with this self-defeating talk. And so, that’s why I think it’s really important that we think about this overworked versus underworked mentality and pull it apart and figure out what can work for you. So, the way I like to teach weight loss, and it’s usually just from my experience and the experience of coaching thousands of women at this point to successfully lost weight, is most of us, our brains are not going to be ready for loads of sudden changes. Our brain hates sudden change.
Corinne:
Just think about anything in your life. If you’re going to work every day and suddenly, you see that the Interstate is now tore up. And you’re going to have to go in a new direction. Our brain doesn’t be like, “Oh, great. They’ve laid out a path for me. This will be so simple. Thank God there’re signs.” No. Our brain is like, “Fuck me. Are you kidding? This is the way I go every day. This is my state’s wasting dollars one more time.”
Corinne:
Our brain hates change even if the changes are going to be super inconvenient, even if the change isn’t super bad, it just doesn’t like change. So, knowing that, one of the things that I teach is then let’s make doable changes. Let’s make changes that your brain isn’t going to have a dramatic collective freakout over. And so, that’s why we start with little things about where are you right now? What do you think you can do today?
Corinne:
You all know, I teach the four basics. If I say, “All right, you’re going to make a food plan every single day. Every single day, I want you to write down what you’re going to eat,” then you got to go back and you got to look at it and say, “Do I feel like this is really doable for me today? Knowing what I know about my period, knowing what I know about my carpooling situation for the day. Knowing what I know about my partner’s attitude, how they woke up this morning. Knowing what I know about the task I got to do at work. Does this shit look legit? Do I think I can do this?”
Corinne:
If the answer is no or the answer is, “Well, if I have a lobotomy, I could,” then we start over.
Kathy:
Lobotomy.
Corinne:
Well, seriously. So many of us are starting diets. I swear to God, people will pick diets and start diets. And it’s like, “Yeah, I could do that as long as I’m morphed into a completely new human being. But I’m going to go anyway.” It drives me crazy. But if you’re like, “All right, given what I know about my day, I can eat this stuff. This is the kind of things that allow me to look forward to some food. I may not have an orgasm in my mouth, but it’s pretty good deal to do to lose weight.
Corinne:
I know that when I look at this, I got plenty of food on the plan. Okay. So I get hungry. This is the kind of food that I could tell myself, ‘You’ve had enough. I’m glad that you get to eat these things.’” Because at the end of the day, weight loss is not about what you ate, near as much as it, “Are you thinking about the eating? Are you asking yourself about the foods?” What were you going to say, Kathy?
Kathy:
You are cracking me up. And here’s why. We were in a meeting one day this week and you … I don’t remember what … Maybe we were, I don’t know, we were in a meeting. And you said, “Kathy Hartman, we’re just like twins. You just finished my sentence.” And I take a few notes so I don’t forget what I want to say.
Kathy:
I was just writing down that part of overworking is not just finding this pie in the sky plan to follow. It’s how you think about what you’re doing. So, it’s not just what you’re doing. It’s how you think about what you’re doing. And I had written down … And you just said that. And I was like, “Here we go again. We’re thinking alike.”
Kathy:
But I had also written down urgency. When we’re overworking whether it’s diet or work or whatever it is, there’s always some kind of urgency behind it. And the urgency that you were talking about was all this negative self-talk, “See, I’m so fat. I better do something,” or whatever it is that negative self-talk is creating the urgency to get in there and do all the things rather than just sitting back and taking a pause and going what’s doable.
Corinne:
Yeah. So, that’s one of the reasons why I like to teach everybody … Here’s what I found is that if I would go if into my weight loss and, each and every day, treat that day as special, treat that day uniquely. Don’t be thinking about tomorrow. Don’t be thinking about what I should be doing. Don’t be thinking about how long it’s going to take. Don’t do anything.
Corinne:
Keep putting my brain to work on the day at hand. And what Corinne’s mindset for that day could handle because not every day is the same. Never is. Quit acting like it should all be the same. This is why I like cookie-cutter diets. It’s like we’re humans. Hell, I’m a human woman which means certain times of the month, my hunger is greater than the other times. And I was never overweight because when I was on my period that I ate when I was actually hungry.
Corinne:
I was overweight because of all the times I was not hungry, not questioning it, not wondering, not doing anything and I was just eating my face off because I had a bad day or because I was tired and stuff. And so, it’s like one of those things where I think we have to just look at it and think about, “All right, each day is unique and special. How can I show up for this day?
Corinne:
Knowing what I know about myself. Knowing what I know about what I got going on in my life. And how can I make weight loss easy for myself today? What are the things I can do? What are the things today that I’m not going to do?”
Corinne:
And I don’t mean like food you aren’t going to eat but what are the things you’re not going to tell yourself today? If you are like … You typically stress eat when you get off or you might want to tell yourself, “Today is one of those days that when I come home, I’m not going to eat just because I’m stressed. I’m going to treat myself to a good dinner. I’m going to sit there and tell myself about what’s right about me. And I’m not going to go home and think about everything that I should have done for the day that I need to do tomorrow and stuff.”
Corinne:
When I get home, I’m going to take the stress off of me. And it won’t happen in the frigerator today. So it’s like for me, when we just rely on overworking diets where we just keep putting everything into, “I have to make all these radical changes. I have to make all these radical restrictions. I have to do all these things in order to lose weight.” I’m just going to tell you right now, it’s bullshit. I would much rather see a lot of you start your weight loss underworking.
Corinne:
Now, I know that sounds crazy. And if your brain is just like, “Blast me, fuck me that ain’t going to do it fast enough, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,” that’s fine. Call it something else. But I want to tell you about athletes. And they have a golden rule. And the golden rule is it is better to show up to a game or to show up to a race 10% undertrained than it ever is to show up 1% overtrained. Because when you overtrain, you’re more likely to get injured, you’re more likely to break, you’re more likely to be slower.
Corinne:
And when you’re undertrained, you’re not. When you’re slightly undertrained, you’re more likely to be able to kick it the extra mile when you need it. You’re more likely to be able to dig deep because you got a little bit of reserve. The goal is to never overtrain. And what we need to do when it comes to weight loss is I would much rather … Because I see more women quit because they tell themselves all the things they should be doing. I would much rather you hear this thought, “That’s not good enough,” and then you tell yourself why it is good enough for today.
Corinne:
I’d rather you start learning how to combat that voice. Because I think what is happening in this world especially for women when it comes to weight is that we are trying to diet from feeling like we’re not good enough. And that nothing we ever do is going to be enough. And we need to change that mindset. We need to start dropping off what we should be doing and thinking about what we could be doing for ourselves today.
Corinne:
What are the things that are totally doable? What will help me today? How can I be there for myself today? Those are much better questions to be asking yourself. Those are much better questions to be planning your food from, deciding how you’re going to show up for yourself for the day when you’re having dinner, when you’re having lunch, when it’s snack-time, when you’re unwinding at 8:00 at night.
Corinne:
How can I make this time easier on me so that I don’t eat? What could I be telling myself that feels better than what I’m currently telling myself about my body, about food, about my day, about my relationships? Those are questions that you can ask yourself as often as you want and especially on paper.
Kathy:
You know what I love about that is the way you said those questions and the way you talked about what you could be thinking, you sounded so calm.
Corinne:
Yeah.
Kathy:
You sounded so settled and grounded. So, using that kind of mindset creates that sense of inner being that’s more calm, more peaceful, more with the thought like this is doable rather than the urgency that I was talking about. That’s that voice that’s screaming in the back of your head, “Go and do it now, you loser. You’re too fat. You got to get in the gym,” whatever it is. It’s such a totally different way of thinking
Corinne:
And urgency talk is going to sound like you’ll hear it. You’ll hear yourself saying it because you’ll use words like “I have to.” Like, “I have to eat this,” or, “I have to do this,” or, “I should be doing this. I shouldn’t do this.” Those kinds of thoughts, I was actually talking to somebody this morning about a little unrelated, but we are in the middle of filming our January 2 workshop for our No BS women.
Corinne:
So, we have this full-day workshop called Building the U of 2022 where every member included in their membership is going to spend an entire day with me virtually. And we are going to be crafting this 90-day plan for the New Year that is not just about what you’re going to eat. I finished all of the scripts this morning. It’s so much about how you think about yourself.
Corinne:
And one of the lessons in there is talking about how we go to the shitter when we are thinking about all the things that we should be doing, we must do, we have to do. Anytime you use that language, it always feels skeezy. We’re never saying it. Just right now for all of you listening, think about something that you keep telling yourself how you should be, but you should say, what you should be doing. The things that like, “Well, you shouldn’t really be thinking that. You really shouldn’t be doing that.”
Corinne:
We never feel good. We feel a little punished. We feel a little naughty. We feel a little bad. We feel a little [crosstalk 00:21:27].
Kathy:
I feel not good enough. Yeah, inadequate.
Corinne:
Yeah. We feel a little not good enough. It just doesn’t feel good. And that’s not to say that there aren’t things that we can improve. But I would much rather somebody rather than saying, “I should be eating more vegetables,” to say, “I’ve noticed I’ve not been eating vegetables. I’m going to figure out how to make a plan for that next week. I’m going to figure out how I can add in vegetables.”
Corinne:
The same fucking concept except the way I just said it actually gives you a path to correcting that. The way your sentence, it’s like, “Well, I really should eat more vegetables,” all that does is open the door to like, “Yeah. And you know why you don’t eat vegetables? Because you’re a loser.” And we’ll think like, “Yeah, that’s your mama’s fault, if only she had been showing us more when we were kids.”
Corinne:
Shoulds are one of those things that sounds like very natural. And the unfortunate thing is it is very natural talk but it’s not helpful. And that is one of the things that we will be harping on on January 2nd. I will be beating it like I’m the Little Drummer girl.
Kathy:
I can’t wait.
Corinne:
Gosh, it’s going to be so good. We are going to learn how to speak to ourselves about ourselves throughout 2022. Because if you don’t get your mindset right, I guarantee you can’t lose weight. You might be able to lose weight but you can’t keep it up. Why you think so many people have weight loss surgery and you all, I know this happens. I have a robust group of women inside of No BS, hundreds who have had weight loss surgery. And then they come to me because, guess what, they didn’t operate on their brain. They only operate on their stomach.
Corinne:
And eventually, they end up regaining their weight. And the number one comment that I get from them all the time is, “I lost weight but I didn’t lose my scared ass mindset. I was still scared of food. When I would look at my body, although I was very proud of my weight loss, because I never learned how to love myself that I would be like, ‘Oh, wow, I’ve lost so much weight.’ But man, I didn’t think it would look like this. If only I had looked a little different.’”
Corinne:
We do these things to ourselves. That’s why mindset is so important because if your mindset doesn’t change, it’s really hard to keep your weight off. And most people can’t do it. I just don’t see it happening hardly ever. So, what I want to do is I want to talk about this whole underworking and what that means and doability and what to watch out for when it comes to overworking.
Corinne:
So, I’ve already talked about a couple of things. Number one is you’ve got to watch out for thinking when you’re going to go in and underwork which doesn’t mean that you’re half-assing. It means for a lot of us if our pattern is to overdo it, it needs to almost feel like it’s not enough. I tell my clients all the time, “You know you got a doable plan when your brain wants to throw up bullshit of like, ‘Oh my God, that’s not good enough.’”
Corinne:
That’s when you say like, “I must be right on track because now my brain is throwing a hissy fit. Now, my brain is just wrong.” I always tell my brain, “Here’s what’s not good enough.” Sitting around thinking about all the things I should be doing and then not doing dick about it because I think it’s going to be too hard. If anything is not good enough, that’s not good enough.
Corinne:
I’ll eat. Tell my brain like, “What are you even thinking?” Now, I don’t get mad at my thinking. I don’t think my thinking has to go away. But I’m real honest with my brain. I’m like, “Look, we’re going to go say some shit. We’re going to say all of the shit.” Not just one side of the story. And then, that helps you understand.
Corinne:
So, I want you to be thinking about really, each and every day, what can I do today to make my weight loss easier? And if you’re new to the podcast and you don’t know how, go to my website, NoBSFreeCourse.com. Take the free course. In three short videos, I will teach you the easiest techniques of all to lose weight. They ain’t basic no rocket science. You ain’t going to need a calculator. You ain’t going to need a special app. You ain’t going to need nothing other than your ears, a pen and piece of paper. Can you do that? You can lose some weight.
Corinne:
So, make sure that step one is thinking about what can I do to make weight loss easy today? What will work for me today knowing what’s on my schedule, knowing my time of the month, knowing that my grandbabies are coming over? I know Kathy got no time of the month but she got time of the week when four of them grandbabies come strolling in and slobber all over everything.
Kathy:
And eat all of the mac and cheese.
Corinne:
Yes. I know how Kathy Hartman does it.
Kathy:
I got to tell you, the 18-month old Patrick, I found him in the pine tree last time we were here. I mean, he’s just walk, eat. He walks into the pine tree, pulls out the nacho chips, starts coming through the kitchen with a big bag of nacho chips.
Corinne:
I figured Patrick is going to be like, “What’s wrong with Nana’s house? Where’s all the cookies?”
Kathy:
Yeah, right. It’s like, “Patrick, would you like some [inaudible 00:27:30]?”
Corinne:
Now, I know you can have some good food up in your house.
Kathy:
But we do. It’s funny that you mentioned that particular night which is usually Tuesdays for us. We either go there or they come here. And I always plan a super easy meal to fix for dinner. Or I’ll put on my plan whatever the super easy meal is, usually a spaghetti or out. So, I know that …
Corinne:
You all take four kids out?
Kathy:
No. We finish babysitting. We feed them. We send them on and then we go out.
Corinne:
Yeah. I was going to say I got to put the podcast on hold. I’m having a heart attack for you.
Kathy:
No. That’s a hard no.
Corinne:
So, I had my one and thought I deserved a crown. You had two. And now, you have four grandbabies. I’m like, “How do you take care of?” Well, I guess if they only come once a week, you got seven days to savor before they come back.
Kathy:
We have taken them out before. But usually, it’s somewhere like Chick-Fil-A. That’s quick and easy.
Corinne:
And has a playground to keep the older ones occupied.
Kathy:
Right. But it really does help stay on plan and know that I’ve got my own back when I start the day thinking, “Okay, I’ve got those kids tonight. What’s going to be realistic for me to eat?” It’s not going to be something that takes a lot of effort because we’ll be tired when they go home.
Corinne:
Exactly. And I think that that’s what’s key is that a lot of us, what we do is we create these idealistic plans and we don’t really look at our life. And then you get to the end of the day with four grandbabies. Patrick walking around with a bag of nacho chips in his hands. And I know you wouldn’t say, “Fuck it,” but at least in your mind, you’re like, “Gosh, darn it, I’m tired.”
Kathy:
Gosh, darn it.
Corinne:
Somebody call for pizza. You don’t want to set yourself up to get into that mindset. It’s like, “Well, let me just plan smartly ahead.” So that if you plan your Chick-Fil-A or you plan whatever it is that you plan, you’re going into that meal knowing like, “I designed this knowing ahead of time how I would be feeling, how I would be thinking.” And so you don’t have to turn your brain off. You can just be like, “I’m really glad that I plan for this.”
Corinne:
And then you get to eat with integrity. What we’d normally do is if we break our plan, well then we also just throw out the window of if we’re hungry and have we had enough. We’re just like, “Well, I’ve already fucked up so I might as well just keep on eating.” And that is what overworking does. Overworking sets you up for thinking, “There’s one way to do it and that’s called perfectly.” And when it’s not done perfectly into the complete ideal, well, shit, now, I can’t do anything.
Corinne:
And that’s why I like the underworking thing. It’s like where I want you guys to be like, “All right, I’m going to always be thinking about what I can be doing. And I’m going to work up to that level at which I can execute, that I can commit to and that I can do.” Now, I do want to say this. This is not to say that you can’t challenge yourself, that you can challenge yourself, but only do it when you feel excited about it, when you feel like you’re ready, when you want the challenge.
Corinne:
What most of us do is we challenge ourselves from feeling a lack in our life. We challenge ourselves saying, “I should be doing this. So, then, this is what I’m going to do.” Or we challenge ourselves from like, “I’m terrible. This is what’s wrong with me. These are the things I should be doing.” And then we challenge ourselves.
Corinne:
And when you do it from that place, it’s like it blows up in our face. I want us doing it because we feel compelled, we feel drawn to it, we feel brave, we feel courageous. We were getting so conditioned to seeing ourselves follow through and when that we want more for ourselves. That is such a different energy. And that is a weight loss winners’ mindset, that energy.
Corinne:
The next thing to really be looking for, again, is that should thinking. This isn’t good enough. This isn’t enough. And should thinking they go hand in hand. But one thing that I want you to … Just, I want you to listen for it. And then anytime you hear yourself thinking about what you should be eating, what you should be doing, I want you to ask yourself, “Why do I even believe that?”
Corinne:
This is what we work on so much inside of No BS. We don’t get to do deep work in the podcast. But inside of No BS, we dig into those beliefs. We start figuring out like, “Why do I even believe that this is a think that I shouldn’t eat carbs? What diet did this come from? Who in my life at some point had such authority in my life that I believed them more than I believed myself? Was some of this messaging that I have handed down from me from someone else’s brain that might not have even fucking known what to do themselves?”
Corinne:
That happens a lot with our mothers when we’re kids. We adopt a lot of their eating patterns, their thinking patterns, and how our mamas were just as broken as we are. But as kids, we don’t even know to question it. We just think that that’s the way it is. And then we’re like 45 still believing the same things that we learned at 11 because no one ever told us that we’re supposed to question a lot of that stuff and decide with our adult brain. “Is that the thinking I want? Are those the food rules I want? If it’s not, what our mind, what would I like? And can I be brave enough to go after them and use them?”
Corinne:
So, I want you to listen to those. And just like if you want to dive in a little bit around diet history, that’s a simple question to ask is anytime you hear yourself thinking about anything you should or shouldn’t be doing or eating or whatever when it comes to weight loss, just think about, “Is this outdated weight loss advice? Is this something that some rule that I tried back in 1983 with Jane Fonda that everybody else quit but me?” Those are the things to think about.
Corinne:
Pure No BS woman, if you went to … I believe we did this May camp of last year, we talked about diet rules and stuff. So if you went to May camp, there’s stuff there. If you didn’t, never fear. You can always go to the video replays’ section of the website. If you just use the search bar and type in “diet rules,” I will promise you, tons of videos will come up where I have coached people out of old diet mentality. You can type in “diet mentality,” “diet rules.”
Corinne:
I have coached hundreds of women on this. And you can watch video after video of me helping people unwind past diet trauma.
Kathy:
There’s also a lesson in the No BS weight loss course.
Corinne:
Yes.
Kathy:
It’s a very basic lesson in the No BS weight loss course for our beginners who are out there, beginning members. Make sure you listen to that lesson. Listen to it a couple of times.
Corinne:
Yes. And then the last thing is just asking yourself daily, “What can I do today?” And be really honest. Take into consideration everything that I’ve been telling you. Those are very important things to do. When you allow yourself to think like, “All right, this isn’t good enough and you combat it,” this will allow you to underwork a little bit.
Corinne:
So many of you need to just break the habit of overworking which means … And this is I think what I really want you to understand is that you won’t truly be underworking. You’ll be meeting yourself where you need to be in order to be successful. But it’s going to feel like underworking because what you’ve done is you’ve been overworking for so long. And it won’t feel right at first and that’s okay.
Corinne:
But you’ll end up listening to your own needs, meeting yourself where you’re at, getting better and better at designing weight loss that’s going to work day by day. I don’t care how much weight you have to lose. I don’t care if it’s 100 pounds, 10 pounds, 200 pounds, whatever it is, you still got an amount of days that you got to execute. Each one of them is important. And you don’t know how many of those days you have until the very end.
Corinne:
So don’t rush the process. Don’t wonder how long it’s going to take. Don’t sit there and wish you were at the end. Stay present in the day. Meet yourself where you’re at. Tell yourself good job on any little thing you do. And the days will pass by way more effortlessly than when you’re passing each day overworking, doing radical shit that you don’t like, making yourself do things, telling yourself everything that you can’t have, wishing that your weight loss would be faster.
Corinne:
It’s like, “Well, no shit.” If every day is miserable, no wonder you wish it was over. The more that we make the process doable, fun, easy on ourselves. We don’t wish the process to hurry up anymore because we start finding happiness in each day. We start finding success in each day. We start changing how we think about ourselves. We start changing everything about our life.
Corinne:
And we don’t need the process because the … I don’t care how much you wish it would go faster. It still goes the same fucking speed unless you got some Thad Castle [inaudible 00:37:44] and about. So, you might as well quit wishing for it like that and start getting dialed in to what you can be doing for yourself each day.
Corinne:
And the last thing I just want to say is this takes time. Your mindset isn’t … You’re going to listen to this podcast. You may need to download it right now. If this is like, “Oh shit, this is me. This is great,” I suggest you go on your phone, listen to the words coming out my mouth. Actually, download it, save it to your phone so that you can listen to it a few times because this takes time to sink in.
Corinne:
The moment that you notice yourself going back to thinking shoulds and things aren’t enough, listen to the podcast. Again, go out on a walk, get your mind straight. But it does take time. And then I don’t talk about the weight loss but the mindset shift will take time.
Corinne:
All right, anything you want to add to this, Kathy?
Kathy:
The only other thing I would say is on your number three when you ask yourself, “What can I do today,” the first thing should be give myself some grace to do this in a way that I can really do it, to do this in a way that’s doable. So, always start with giving yourself a little bit of grace to figure it out, to work on it, to make mistakes.
Kathy:
I was thinking we were talking about Patrick and the nacho chips and keeping all the four kids. Corinne, sometimes I don’t follow my plan that day because I forget that the kids are coming and I’ve got some big meal plan, meatloaf and mashed potatoes or something when really, all I want is a sandwich. So, I’m okay with that. I give myself the grace to say, “You know what? I forgot. I forgot that I had this big night planned. And it’s okay because I can go ahead and make a good decision now.”
Corinne:
Yeah.
Kathy:
So, any time you can choose not to beat yourself up or send yourself, Judith Gaton calls them the Should Committee. Listen to the Should Committee. You’re giving yourself grace to figure it out. And underworking, the way you’ve defined it here is all about giving yourself grace to make the process easy for you.
Corinne:
I was sitting there thinking about the January 2nd workshop. You need to listen to the … There’s a lesson that was going to be in that workshop all on special protocols. You need a four-grandbaby night special protocol.
Kathy:
I do. I do.
Corinne:
For all of my members, we have been talking protocols. We mentioned them every now and then. So, if you’re a member of No BS, please, please, please, go to the website right now and look at everything that we’re doing for you on January 2nd. There’s going to be prizes, all kinds of things happening.
Corinne:
But we have a whole lesson on special protocols. How do you make them? We’re going to make them together. One of you will get coached with me as I walk you through how to create one so that when you leave that workshop, you also have these templates of how to show up for yourself both in your food and your thinking and your doing when life … Basically, I call it when the shit hits the fan in your life. I don’t want to call it the four babies shit hitting the fan but …
Kathy:
It’s just a little curveball.
Corinne:
Yeah, we’ll call them a curveball.
Kathy:
Because honestly, they could happen any night. Jason could call today and say, “What are you doing? Can Olivia and I go out tonight?” “Yeah, sure.”
Corinne:
Can you take four kids?
Kathy:
Great, okay. My poor brain can’t get wrapped around …
Corinne:
I’d like to just see me one time with four kids. Just one day.
Kathy:
You should come one day.
Corinne:
No. This is one of those things I indulge in my brain that I would like to experiment with. And when the rubber hits the road, it’s a no. So, you can put the Corinne, the elf on the shelf. Next time your grandbabies come over, just put me out somewhere and pretend I’m there.
Kathy:
I’ll put you next to that nacho bag.
Corinne:
Patrick, don’t get the …
Kathy:
See what Patrick says about that. I don’t know. I hope I’m around long enough to see Logan get married and have four children so that Corinne becomes Nana to four and is creating special protocols for babysitting.
Corinne:
No, this is what’s going to happen. Logan has kids. Corinne is going to make sure that Aunt JJ comes over on those days to help me play with all the babies. I’m going to need a team, Kathy. I’m going to need a team.
Kathy:
Call me. I’ll be well practiced by then. Yeah.
Corinne:
All right, everybody, you all have a good one. We will see you next week.
Corinne:
Thank you so much for listening today. Make sure you head on over to NoBSRecourse.com and sign up for my free weight loss training on what you need to know to start losing your weight right now.
Corinne:
You’ll also find lots of notes and resources from our past podcasts to help you lose your weight without all the bullshit diet advices. I’ll see you next week.
