Episode 275: But It Tastes So Good…

Corrinne:

Hi, I’m Corinne. After a lifetime of obesity, being bullied for being the fattest kid in the class and losing and gaining weight like it was my job, I finally got my shit together and I lost 100 pounds. Each week, I’ll teach you no bullshit weight loss advice you can use to overcome your battle with weight. I keep it simple.

Corrinne:

You’ll learn how to quit eating and thinking like an asshole. You stop that, and weight loss becomes easy. My goal is to help you lose weight the way you want to live your life. If you are ready to figure out weight loss, then let’s go. Hello everyone. I am Corinne. I am with No BS Weightloss.

Corrinne:

I’m the founder and CEO and I am the host of the Losing 100 Pounds Podcast with Corinne. And this is our monthly live Q&A for weight loss. So all you got to do is when you come on in, you just need to type in #ask, ask your questions and then my team’s going to give it to me. And I’m going to answer as many questions as we possibly can.

Corrinne:

So let me just go over a couple of little things before we get started since it takes a minute or two for all of you to get in here. Make sure you say hello. Yes. I have changed my hair again. If you don’t know, if you’ve been following me for a long time you know I changed my hair all the time. I have had really long hair, medium hair, extremely cropped hair.

Corrinne:

I’ve had pink hair, blue hair, purple hair. I’ve had all the hair and now I am going with a different look. So I like to change things up. And there’s a few extensions, everything else is natural. This is how long my hair has grown out. So if you remember me from last year, I had an undercut, which means it was shaved underneath.

Corrinne:

So it has grown a lot in the last year. So today, here is what we’re going to do. I want to do questions. So please use #ask if you have any, and my team will get them to me. Team, I am in the Corinne only channel, just so that y’all know that I am ready. I am also going to go over a small mini lesson with y’all today to just warm us up.

Corrinne:

I was thinking about what to talk about today. And I got some ideas from my team, from Kathy Hartman who’s the co-host of the podcast. And I know a lot of you right now are struggling with money. It’s one of those things that’s just in all of our brains. You can’t turn the news on without hearing about it. Can’t go get gas without thinking about it.

Corrinne:

It’s everywhere. And it’s also really common for us to start thinking that when we see food prices rise, our first thought is, oh shit, I can’t afford to lose weight. Here’s my counter argument to you. When you lose weight the way that I teach you, where we’re not worried about all the food, we are not worried about what we’re putting on our plate.

Corrinne:

We’re going to first and foremost concentrate on am I actually fucking hungry? Because if I’m hungry, time to eat. And when I have enough, not when I’m so full that my eyes are rolling back in my head, or I actually heard this concept. Let me just tell you this. Just a side note. I was listening to something, just a random podcast that I listened to.

Corrinne:

I don’t know which one it was, y’all I listen to like 40 podcasts a week. And they said something really interesting. And one of the things that they said is we are taught as a society about food, to override our body, which y’all know I teach this all the time. We are going to be listening to our body. Here’s how we automatically think about food now.

Corrinne:

And this is conditioning. This is not what our forefathers and foremothers thought. We use how much we’re served as a queue as to how much we’re supposed to eat. So if you go to The Cheesecake Factory, you are going to be eating enough for a family of four in one plate. So we have to be thinking about all the reasons why we are eating past what our body actually needs.

Corrinne:

And for a lot of you just understanding that social conditioning is the why we’re eating. It’s really just our mental construct around it. And so if the reason why we’re gaining weight and the reason why we’re overeating is because of social conditioning and a mental construct, then we just need to break that down and remember we need to be eating according to our body.

Corrinne:

We’re not supposed to use what got dished up on the plate as the cue as to when we’re done. That’s what the majority of us do. We look at our plate, we get overserved, we over serve ourselves and we think I’m supposed to stop when the plate’s finished. That was never how it was intended.

Corrinne:

Now that happened at some point in history, but that was not how we were physically designed to eat. So we need to have this concept aware, especially when we’re talking about, like people will say, “I can’t afford to lose weight.” I’m like, you can’t afford to keep overeating. Let’s tell the fucking truth. It costs more money to clean your plate.

Corrinne:

It costs more money to keep your overeating habit simply because it tastes good. Because if you’re always cleaning your plate and eating past what your body needs, if you’re always eating because it tastes so good, I should finish it, I am entitled to finish it. Guess what never happens? Your grocery bill won’t go down.

Corrinne:

Because you will have to keep buying the amount of food that you teach yourself that you eat. I tell my clients all the time, best way to save money is to learn how to get over your shitty ass thinking. And it’s the truth. I tell them all the time. If you’ll get used to, in the beginning, it’s going to feel so wasteful.

Corrinne:

You’re going to realize, oh shit, I went to this restaurant. They gave me too much food. Now look, bitches, y’all can wrap that up and take it home. I’m not saying you got to send it back to the kitchen and have it, throw it away. But our brains trick us into thinking, we got to clean our plate. We need to get our money’s worth. I paid for it.

Corrinne:

What if it tastes like shit tomorrow? Well, look, if you don’t ever quit overfeeding yourself, you’re always going to pay more money for food because you’re going to go to that restaurant every single time and you’re going to keep ordering the same thing. Same thing that happens at home.

Corrinne:

If you over serve yourself all the time, if you’re always in the clean plate club, be in the garbage disposal for your juniors food that he leaves behind, whatever your partner doesn’t eat, whatever last three spoonfuls of mac and cheese left in the pan, you’ll never cut back how much you cook. And then you in the long run will never buy less groceries.

Corrinne:

So for a lot of us, we have to be thinking like, oh, the best way to save money is to learn how to quit overeating for my emotions, because I had a bad day, because I think I’m entitled, because I’m uncomfortable leaving food behind on my plate. I’m worried what other people might think.

Corrinne:

When we unlearn all that shit, guess what happens, we save money. And we just don’t save money on our food bill. A lot of y’all taking meds to compensate for cleaning your plate. Now I don’t say this to shame you, but when we’re thinking about… I get a lot of questions about like, I don’t know if I can afford to lose weight.

Corrinne:

I’m like, you can’t afford to keep overeating. It’s costing you money in your meds. It’s costing you emotional bandwidth to where every night you’re beating yourself up so much that now you’re eating ice cream on top of it to get away from yourself [inaudible 00:08:38] about how ain’t lost your weight yet.

Corrinne:

When we clean up emotional eating, we end up saving ourselves money, emotional expense and time because you ain’t sitting around eating. You have more time to go do better things. You have more time to rest. You learn how to actually take care of yourself. So I want to teach y’all something that’s inside my membership. Now for all my No BS women, when you see this, I want you to know there’s actually six steps.

Corrinne:

There is an entire video for y’all. I did a class on It Tastes so Good. So if you’re like, well, I missed that one. Corinne, I’d really like to watch your full training where you answered questions and you did all the things, just go inside of our video replays or in our private member podcast.

Corrinne:

I think it’s just called Wednesday Q&A with Corinne, called It Tastes so Good. If you can’t find it, all you got to do is post inside our private Facebook group and somebody from my team will be more than happy to link you and direct you to the call. All right.

Corrinne:

So this is what I taught them, because a lot of y’all really need to figure out just because something tastes good, don’t mean you got to keep letting it go down like a slip and slide in your throat. None of us is a slip and slide. Yeah, it tastes good. Isn’t that what food’s supposed to do? Here’s how I teach you to lose weight, don’t eat shit you hate wait.

Corrinne:

Why are we doing that? What in the world did the diet industry think when they were like, I have a plan. Let’s teach women to lose weight by making women eat shit they hate and cutting out everything they love. That is such bullshit. We should enjoy our food. The whole point is to enjoy it. I eat shit I like, I hope you do too.

Corrinne:

But a big second point for a lot of my members is, because I tell them y’all need to actually plan food you like. You just need to learn how to eat it like a normal fucking person instead of a hoover who ain’t never going to get it again. When we quit eating like a hoover, guess what? We can lose weight eating the foods we like.

Corrinne:

So this always comes up though. And then when somebody overeats the first time and goes like, “Oh my God, it tastes so good.” They start saying, “Food’s got control over you.” Food ain’t got no fucking control over you. I have yet to see, I mean, I don’t know, unless you’re sitting around with your mouth wide open in the front yard and waiting for a squirrel to run down your throat.

Corrinne:

And now you’re like, “That’s my meat dinner.” Last time I checked a bag of chips ain’t got lips on it, can’t talk to you. Last time I checked Ho Hos and Ding Dongs don’t have legs and arms where they can pry your mouth open and hop in. So food ain’t got no control over us.

Corrinne:

We have to realize what’s happening is we have thoughts that make us feel disempowered around food. So I need to work on my thoughts around it instead of thinking food is some magical leprechaun that can jump in my mouth at any time and I don’t know what’s happening.

Corrinne:

So when we’re going to eat things we like, this is going to get in our way every single time. The answer is not to now punish ourselves by taking the food away so that every time it gets within our orbit, we don’t know what the fuck to do with ourselves. We want to practice with the food. We want to learn that we can include it and lose weight.

Corrinne:

We have to be with it. Sometimes we might even over eat it, but we’re going to learn each and every single time, and we’re going to reintroduce it one more time so that we can gain authority. So the first thing you do is you eat the food you like that tastes so good in order to trigger this thought, we don’t hide from food because that feels like shit.

Corrinne:

We don’t take it out of our house out of fear we can’t control ourselves because then otherwise we feel terrible. We practice with it. We included in our food plans deliberately and on purpose. And we go in to the mac and cheese and we eat that son of bitch as a practice, knowing we’re going to get good at being around food that tastes good and never have to tell ourselves ever again that we can’t control ourselves.

Corrinne:

That’s the goal. The second thing that we do is we normalize it. So here we are mac and cheese, glorious mac and cheese, little golden streams sent from heaven. And we tell ourselves, “Oh, this taste so good.” And we’re like, and that’s normal. Humans are supposed to like their food.

Corrinne:

There’s nothing wrong with my food tasting good, nothing at all. Because right now I’m learning how to enjoy the food in front of me and lose weight and realize I don’t have to ever over eat it again because I’m going to start including it and eating it with patience, joy and control. So the second step is we normalize it.

Corrinne:

The third step, even if you normalize it and you tell yourself beautiful thoughts, you’re going to need to breathe and regulate your nervous system because here’s what always happens. If you are used to thinking that you’re an addict, that food has power over you, that somehow you lose control, you are going to, like I don’t care what shit thought you have, you are going to drive up the cortisol in your body.

Corrinne:

That’s going to produce anxiety, panic, fear, all kinds of juicy feelings that when we feel them, guess what we do? We freak out. We’re like, “Oh my God, I have a bad feeling. This is terrible. I better eat my mac and cheese faster so I can quit thinking about my feelings.” We’re not doing that now. We’re not going to be afraid of our feelings.

Corrinne:

I don’t care if you break out in a cold sweat and you’re sitting there and you’re looking at your mac and cheese with all your favorite thoughts running through your head about how good it is and that you don’t have no control. We’re going to tell ourselves it’s normal that food tastes good and it’s okay.

Corrinne:

And now I’m just going to breathe and regulate my nervous system. The only thing that’s really happening is you’re having some panicky thoughts and then your body is responding. And when your body responds, it can be sweating. It can be a little breathlessness. It can be extreme tightness in the chest. You can even get a little shaky.

Corrinne:

There are all kinds of things that happen when we have those emotions. And when you breathe and you breathe deep, it helps clear the chemicals that your brain has been releasing through your body. So we have our mac and cheese in front of us, we have talked nicely about it and now we’re just going to breathe, but I want you to put the fork down.

Corrinne:

Literally, I want you to put the fork down because I promise you that food can’t jump inside your mouth. There’s only one way it’s going to go in, one, a decision, hand to mouth, hand to mouth. So if you put the fork down and maybe even scoot your plate back just a little bit and just like, we are going to be having this, but I’m going to breathe deeply for like 10 good solid breaths.

Corrinne:

And I’m just going to remind myself, I just want to calm my nervous system down. There’s nothing weird going on here. I’m just not used to eating macaroni and cheese outside of hoovering it feeling guilty, shame and feeling like I’m breaking all the rules. Then we’re ready to ask a question, we ain’t eaten just yet.

Corrinne:

Everybody hear me, we ain’t eaten just yet. Now this sounds like a long process. This is literally three minutes, three minutes maybe, that’s if you take your sweet ass time. Can I just? This is a sentence or a question that I have my members ask themselves all the time. In those moments when things feel hard, I want you to ask yourself, can I just? And then decide what it is.

Corrinne:

So if I was sitting in front of my mac and cheese and I was breathing and stuff, I would just say like, “Can I just eat one fork full at a time and set my fork down? So that I can prove that I can eat mac and cheese in a different way, that I can prove that I can eat it and know that it tastes good and know that I can put my fork down and know that I did it differently than I have any other time before.”

Corrinne:

When you do that, here’s what happens. You give your brain an opportunity to open the door for the sensible side to come in. When you are triggered and your nervous system is going crazy and your thoughts about how good it tastes and how you don’t have no control, all that stuff. That’s called our habit brain. That is just the collection of thoughts that we’ve always thought, and they come up first.

Corrinne:

When our habit brain takes over, our reasoning brain, the one that’s intellectual, the one that thinks, the one that thinks about your goals, your whys, all that stuff, it leaves the building. When the habit brain comes in, panicky and storm in the room. This is why I have you breathe and take some pauses because it lets your nervous system down regulate and it allows your reasoning brain to come online.

Corrinne:

It’s the one that will say like, okay, we’re doing this. This seems to make sense. I’m very proud of you. One fork full at a time. Let’s see how this goes. Now like I said, this is just part of the process. So for my No BS women that are here, if you are a private member and you want to see the full training and the full process, I just want you to go over to the website and you can watch that training there.

Corrinne:

Our team will give you the links if you need it. And you can’t find it yourself, just post in the Facebook group and we will give you those links. All right. Let’s get to some questions. Let Corinne move her flip chart. See these fabulous pants I’m wearing y’all, I would like to give a shout out to grittysoul.com.

Corrinne:

This is where I got them. I got the pants from Gritty Soul. I’m not sure where I got the top, but Gritty Soul has some of the cutest clothes. And I have bought a few things from them, so shout out to the Gritty Soul. You can follow them on, or follow that chic on Instagram too.

Corrinne:

She, every day is putting the clothes on and showing them off every day and I’m like, oh my God, I want to buy something new. All right. I have a hard time recognizing when I’m full or satisfied. Any tips? If you are a No BS woman, good news, the month of July is the drop it like it’s hot challenge.

Corrinne:

We are going to be giving you a worksheet or a challenge every single week that’s going to give you all kinds of ways to challenge your hunger and to challenge you enough to find them for four straight weeks. You also can go to, I believe at the end of conquering the scale, we did a doable hunger challenge week.

Corrinne:

I don’t have my printout here, but on the front it had a this or that, where we gave you different ways to challenge your hunger every single day. So a tip is, for a lot of our, I’ll give you the halftime method, for all of the people who are not a member. That’s just one of probably 1000 ways that we give you on ways to test hunger, test your enoughness.

Corrinne:

Halftime method, Kathy Hartman developed this. This is where you eat half your food, put your fork down, push back and you wait a few minutes and you evaluate. Then if you’re still hungry, like when you evaluate you’re like, of course your brain’s going to like, oh my God. I’m so hungry. You didn’t clean your plate, blah, blah, blah.

Corrinne:

Thoughts don’t matter. I want you to say like, but what is going on inside my body that’s telling me that I need more food or that I’ve had enough? Then if you think, all right, I need more food. You eat half of what’s left. So we’re going to eat half, assess, half, assess. Yeah. You’re going to eat slower, but that’s the point.

Corrinne:

The point is to give you intentional breaks so that you can think about what is your body telling you? What’s going on in my chest? What’s my mouth telling me what is my brain telling me? What is my belly telling me? What’s my colon telling me? And then you notice those signals. And then over time what happens is you learn like, oh, that’s when I hit enough.

Corrinne:

And then you’ll also learn, sometimes you’ll keep eating and you’ll learn like, oh, I could have stopped sooner. This feels more like too much. This feels more like full for me. And that’s one way that you can test it. Is it normal to feel like there’s different versions of yourself?

Corrinne:

A version who pushes past urges, makes healthy decisions and does good things for herself, but also a version who gives up and gives in easily. Everybody has different versions of themselves. Absolutely. That’s the whole way the brain works, the brain works that way. There are just certain situations you get better at handling things.

Corrinne:

And there are situations where it triggers old patterns and that’s your new stuff to learn how to overcome. That’s just being a human. In fact, stuff’s always going to be changing, right? One of the things that was on my calendar today, said by Katie Perry, “I hope to be changing till the last day on this earth.” And I thought, what a beautiful statement.

Corrinne:

So many people are afraid to change. And it’s like, you’re always going to have different versions of you. And you’re going to change over time. I’m writing, right now we are getting ready to release our maintenance course inside of No BS because we have so many people losing weight that we needed a full on maintenance course.

Corrinne:

And it’s a four month thing because it’s like, maintenance is its own game. And I tell them inside the first module, that’s coming out in July, I tell them all the time, I’m like, when you lose all of your weight, you now have this whole other human you have to get to know. They’re going to have their own doubts and insecurities.

Corrinne:

They’re going to have their own problems and their own new unique set of challenges. That’s not the problem. A lot of times what we do is like, we’re like, oh my God. It’s like I’m two humans rather than like, I’m just a normal human. Some things I’m really good at, and some things I’m still learning how to be better at those. That’s it.

Corrinne:

How can I manage food while traveling overseas? The bloating and the food pushing is next level. Go to my podcast, I have done several podcasts on travel, holidays, all kinds of stuff. Anything about holidays, anything about traveling, Taking No BS on the Road will do you well there.

Corrinne:

If you are a No BS woman, you can take the, we have the summer reset workshop that I did. A lot of you bought that workshop. You didn’t join No BS, but you may have it. I cover all of that in the Summer Reset Workshop. It’s not for sale anymore. If I ever do a workshop, jump in while you fit in because I don’t put them up for sale afterward.

Corrinne:

So you can look at, if you’re a No BS woman, the Summer Reset. You can also look at Handling the Holidays, which is all about travel, all about vacations, all about parties and things like that. We have several resources for you to address all of those things. The biggest thing about when it comes to food pushers is to understand food pushers is a concept, but not a fact.

Corrinne:

So people are going to say, “You should eat that” or, “Oh my God, we’re having a good time” or, “Oh my gosh, please don’t bring your diet along with us for the ride.” People are always going to say those things. It’s very irrelevant until you make a thought about it. Until you think like, I’m going to disappoint them. You ain’t going to disappoint somebody.

Corrinne:

Hear here’s the truth. When somebody says, “If you don’t eat that, you’re going to hurt my feelings.” Do you know what the truth is? They’re going to start eating in a few minutes and forget about what’s going on in your mouth. I remember, I don’t know if my mother’s listening. I remember this one Thanksgiving, and I honestly had not had a great week in my colon.

Corrinne:

And we went to my mom’s and I was not eating over there. My mama likes to cook Southern, it’s rich. It’s all the things. And I went to Thanksgiving and I just said like, “I brought my own food.” Because literally, like I did not want to just tell everybody, “Hey, I would just like everybody to know that not only did I shit my pants on a walk this week, but I’ve had a little bit of the diarrhea. So Corinne’s brought her own food.”

Corrinne:

I just said, “I’m bringing my own food.” And here’s my mother, because she can be a little on the dramatic side sometimes. And I get it quite honestly. She’s like, “You just seem to never want my food. You’ll never know how much this hurts me.” And I just looked at her and I was like, “I’m going to eat my food. And I think everybody will enjoy we’re cooking and we’re going to be just fine.”

Corrinne:

Here we are 10 plus years later, I guarantee she don’t remember that moment. She ate her food that day. Everybody had a good time. There ain’t but one person in the world that even has the fucking memory, I guarantee you, and that’s me. Now in the moment, she might have been disappointed, but guess what?

Corrinne:

In the long haul of life is anybody going to remember if you ate a roll with everybody else on the cruise ship? Are they going to remember if you took a shot or not? I was at Vegas a couple weeks ago, huge party with all these people. Didn’t know these people, but a huge party. I got offered shots five different times in the afternoon and said no every single time.

Corrinne:

And I said no nice, you know why? And they’re were all pushing drinks. They were all there now like, “You’re supposed to be having good. [inaudible 00:29:01].” And I just told them, I was like, “I am having a good time. Isn’t that funny? I’m already having a good time. I guess I don’t need a shot to feel more funny.”

Corrinne:

We have to think about these things. That’s the best way to handle it is it’s not a big deal if you say no until you make it a big deal in your head, let people sometimes be disappointed. My thought is when it comes to food, they get over it.

Corrinne:

And here’s the thing for all of you, I know you got mamas and dads, aunts, uncles, grandmas, all of them who act like it is a sin against the baby Jesus and the golden diaper in his manger if you don’t eat what they cook at a picnic, barbecue, birthday, whatever. Here’s what I know, you keep eating, they will never quit offering, because you are training them like a dog that they get a treat for their behavior.

Corrinne:

If you would like them to eventually ease up, you got to change missy. You got to be the one that says like, “I’m good. I so appreciate that you want me to eat it. And you are right that food tastes amazing, but I just didn’t plan for that today.” Because here’s the deal, I don’t care if you eat grandma’s chicken livers or her cake or whatever you’re going to eat.

Corrinne:

Plan what you want, but most of us are eating to please and appease, half the shit that we don’t even want. We’re eating things against our own will. We’re eating things and feeling like shit afterward. I promise you that every person who offers you food, if they knew what went on in your head, they’d have a different attitude, but we don’t need to tell them that.

Corrinne:

We just need to understand, you know what? They’re going to have their own thoughts. I don’t need to justify myself. I get to be nice about it, but if they really knew what went on for me, they’d probably support me. Now if you feel comfortable telling them, go for it.

Corrinne:

But nobody needs to make other people understand, so that they’ll shut up in order for us to feel better. I’m just honest with people. “I don’t want it. I’m good, but thank you. That’s very kind of you.” And if they keep asking me, I’m just like, “I get it, in the past, I’ve always said yes, but I’m doing something new right now.

Corrinne:

I’m only eating when I’m hungry, I’m just not hungry right now. Save me some for later.” Whatever you want to do, but if you think about it ahead of time, you can come up with amazing things that you can say to people that comes from love and honesty. And if they, at the end of the day, are such the asshat.

Corrinne:

Most of the time we blow it out of proportion, but if somebody is a complete asshat, starts bawling crying and all this other kind of stuff, then I would go over and give them a hug, and just be like, “I can see this is really emotional for you. Other than eating, what could I do to make you feel better?” That’s how I would handle it.

Corrinne:

All right. I am sick in bed and I am now in mode eat what I want when I want. Advice, please. No. I want you to question, just because your brain is like, I want it now. Here’s what you can think about, am I going to be real happy with myself in a few days when I’m not sick anymore? What’s it going to be like on the other side?

Corrinne:

This is what we call equal air time. All right. Equal air time is where I have shady thoughts like, I just want it. I’m sick. I deserve it. It’s called toddler time. So whenever that voice gens up for you, here’s what I want you to think. Oh, that’s three year old talking. The three year version of me is like, “But I’m sick.”

Corrinne:

If your three year old was in a Target whining for a Snicker bar, throw it out on its back, do you want to reward that behavior? Or do you want to be like, “It’s okay, you won’t die without a snicker. We’re going to go home and do something else.” And just like a toddler, when they get home, you know what toddlers don’t do?

Corrinne:

Remember the day in Target three days ago that you crushed their Snicker dreams. Toddler’s like moving on. You got to treat your brain the same way. Just because your brain offers up dodo thoughts, does not mean you have to roll with them. So I first of all would just say like, this is my shitty little kid brain.

Corrinne:

It likes to whin when I’m sick. It thinks being sick is a green card for acting an asshole with food. But here, let me think, if I have COVID, should I eat like a or should I eat in a way that might help me with COVID? Be reasonable. This is where you got to lay what’s the other side of the story here, Corinne?

Corrinne:

I know what you want, but what do you really want? The only thing that you’re probably want and the reason why you’re fucking wanting to need anything is because you’re about pissed about having COVID, you probably feel bad and you’re looking for comfort. You know the best way to comfort yourself is, have some comforting thoughts.

Corrinne:

Quit thinking about how sad it is that you’re sick and stuff and think about like, this is an opportunity for me to learn how to love myself like a boss. What is true self-care when I’m sick? What does that look like? It ain’t eating whatever the fuck I want and then feeling guilty and noticing I gained weight when I was sick.

Corrinne:

I don’t think that’s self-care. Tell yourself different things. I’m a shift worker who works 12-hour days and nights, nurse. Hints. Some days no time to pee, less eat. Then I could eat a cow at the end of my shift. After working nights, all I crave is carbs. How can I manage this?

Corrinne:

Just like the person with COVID, just because your brain wants carbs doesn’t mean you give it to it. You know what your brain wants? To relax. So relax. What’s the most relaxing thing you can do for yourself? Don’t eat shit and then have to feel guilty the next day, that ain’t relaxing.

Corrinne:

And you need to tell yourselves the truth. Like today is a day I don’t get to eat till 4:00. The second I stopped talking to y’all, I start talking to the next group, then the next group, then the next group and then the next group. I get it, I always want to eat more.

Corrinne:

You know what I always tell myself? You didn’t get lunch today. And I don’t get to pee either because I’m always on camera. Could you imagine if I was just like, “Hey, wait up y’all, Corinne’s got to pee.” I get it, but this is the thing, I don’t allow myself to get caught up in feeling sorry for myself about it.

Corrinne:

So I don’t sit there and say like, you know you just have these days where you don’t get to do all this stuff. You know what I say? This is what I did this morning. Today is a day where I know I’m not going to have an opportunity to eat until 4:00. What can I do to set myself up for success at 4:00?

Corrinne:

And then I make decisions about that with my reasoning brain instead of rolling in everything, like I just hope I do better. Don’t be hoping. We don’t sort hoping I’m around here. We ain’t going to be wishing. What we’re going to do is we’re going to make that plan and we’re going to know that that version of us probably wants energy and some comforting foods.

Corrinne:

So we’re not going to plan asshole foods, but we’re going to plan smart. So then we get off work. This is what always happens, like for me, I’ll do three days on stage and barely eat. I will be running on so much adrenaline and cortisol to talk and preach and get pictures made. I am going around the clock. I start at 4:00 AM, I end at 10:00 PM.

Corrinne:

When it’s all over, guess what happens? All that adrenaline and cortisol, just like nurses and doctors and teachers and all of you that work stress jobs, right? Your body doesn’t know what to do with it. As you are going through your shift, it’s amping up adrenaline and cortisol.

Corrinne:

But then when it’s over your body doesn’t be like, oh, let me give you the gentle ride down. Here’s what your body does. Flush the toilet, take it away. And you don’t go back to normal. So I want you to think about, like if my phone is the line, before your shift you’re going cortisol, cortisol cortisol.

Corrinne:

Then what happens is when you get off work, it goes and it dips below the line. The line is feeling normal. When it dips below the line, you feel like you need something to get you back up. Here’s what you need, a rock solid food plan that you will eat. It needs to be something you would like, not something you have to make yourself do.

Corrinne:

You’ve already made yourself go through a whole shift. You’ve already override your body’s hunger. You’ve already override your pissing signals. You’ve already done a lot of making yourself do shit. So you do not need a plan at the end of that shift that forces you to use willpower.

Corrinne:

It’s got to be something that you’re like, this in the moment that I don’t want to do it will be so easy to be like, but that’s okay. It’s not that bad. I can do this. So you need to have that plan, knowing that you are going to be at a low. And then I would suggest, like take five minutes on the couch and breathe and reset your nervous system after you eat or before you eat.

Corrinne:

And that will get you back to normal and then you can start making better decisions for yourself. I need to lower my cholesterol. If I have a history of the scarcity binge cycle, how can I eat healthier things that will heal my body without triggering this again? You’re probably going to trigger it no matter what. The problem isn’t that it gets triggered.

Corrinne:

The problem is that when it’s triggered, no one has taught you what to do when it’s triggered. So if you are, and this is the thing, when it comes, like I’m no doctor, let’s not pretend I am, but if you need to lower your cholesterol, first just start with adding a few healthy things.

Corrinne:

And what most people, when people say, I need to eat some healthier things. This is what most of us mean. I need to everything I love, eat a bunch of shit I don’t like to get my cholesterol down. That’s usually what our brain tells us. Hey, if you’re going to be binging and restricting, then here’s what I’d rather you do.

Corrinne:

Don’t try to do it like a white switch and flip it off. Make small doable changes. If you will go to nobsfreecourse.com, sign up for my free course. I teach in there about how to make small incremental changes that add up over time to add up to losing weight.

Corrinne:

If you’re one of my members and you have lost weight, gotten off meds, lowered your cholesterol, reversed the diabetes, all that kind of stuff, will you please start posting in the comments because it’s not that you need to change everything overnight. You have to start making changes. And that’s what I normally see with people, it’s where they need to make that shift.

Corrinne:

Now if you’re a No BS woman, you join the special diets subgroup inside of the membership. And there will be people in there who have done this work who can help you through it. We can also probably get you together with an accountability group who might all be working on the same thing.

Corrinne:

We always like to, we can either assign you on, we can tell you where to post in order to find people who are more specific to what you want to work on. We can do all that for you inside the membership. Do you have a podcast for losing weight without exercising? Yes. It’s called Losing 100 Pounds with Corinne. I don’t talk about exercise at all in it.

Corrinne:

I don’t have my people exercise. I think exercise is great if you’re doing it and you love it. I would love more of my women to learn how to enjoy it just for health, but I don’t think it’s a weight loss tool. I think more times than not it backfires in weight loss. It sets us up for wanting to do reward eating, compensating with calories.

Corrinne:

WeightWatchers has taught us that we earn extra food through exercise. There’s a bastardized relationship with it. If you listen to my entire podcast, it’s all about the mental game. We just don’t teach weight. We don’t teach the exercise component. I think for most people who need to lose weight need to focus on the mental side and emotional side around food.

Corrinne:

That’s plenty of exercise, brain exercise that we need to do. I always hear about a weight loss goal, but does it need to be an actual number or a feeling? It needs to be both, in my opinion. We don’t always have to set numbers, but one of the things that we teach our members to do is if setting a number is going to trigger a lot of crap, we tell them first to set goals around like, what are lifestyle changes that you would like…

Corrinne:

What are some of the things you would like to get better at? And we set goals on how to get there. We also talk a lot inside the membership about who do you want to be? None of us wants to be 150 pounds. That’s the thought air the diet industry teaches us, like you want to weigh this amount. That’s not what we want.

Corrinne:

Every single person who thinks about themselves at whatever goal, like whatever that end is, they’re picturing themselves with feelings. And the ways that they interact, the respect they get, how they feel on the inside. That’s always the goal. And so when you lose weight, you want to lose weight in a way where you are taught from the very beginning, how to go ahead and start feeling those things.

Corrinne:

So for example, because I know this is a hard concept. When my people join, a lot of them have a good amount of weight to lose. Some people have 10 pounds, some people have 100, some have two or 300 pounds to lose. All ages and sizes. And it’s hard very often for someone to understand like, well, I just want to be proud when I lose my weight.

Corrinne:

That’s the most important thing. I just want to finally wake up one day and be proud of myself, because I’m never proud of myself. I’m always beating myself up. So what I teach is like, if you want to be proud of yourself at the end, we have to start learning how to practice pride today.

Corrinne:

That does not mean I need to wake up and be like, “I’m so proud of myself, blah, blah, blah.” It means you have to unlearn dismissing the good work you do each day. So if on day one you do what I say, which is I want you to make your 24-hour plan. Then you need to, the moment you make the plan, you have to tell yourself, “I’m very proud of me for showing up for this step today.”

Corrinne:

That’s how we start giving ourselves little bits of pride. As you start losing weight, a trap most of us fall into, for all my maintenance girls, we are getting ready to talk about this inside the August release of the maintenance. So the maintenance course is coming out in four different big modules in August.

Corrinne:

I’m going to be talking about imposter syndrome. So if I’m wanting to feel proud at the end of my journey, and let’s say I lose my first 20 pounds and someone’s like, “Oh my gosh, you’re doing so well.” We can’t say, “Yeah, but I’ve got like 80 more to go,” because now you’re not taking pride. You are making your weight loss journey harder.

Corrinne:

And you’re setting yourself up for at the end to not be proud because all you’re doing is teaching yourself how to never be good enough. You’re reinforcing, doesn’t matter what I do, I don’t give myself credit. Doesn’t matter what I weigh. Doesn’t matter anything, blah, blah, blah. So we want to make sure that we’re learning the goal is to learn how to talk to ourselves.

Corrinne:

The goal is to learn how to find these moments where we have to start shifting. And diet programs don’t teach you, that’s the problem. And that is what we rely heavily on is teaching you like, “Hey, it’s really important that if you feel bad when someone says something about your weight loss, it’s time to talk about it with us because that means we got to unravel something going on in your brain.”

Corrinne:

Very often it’s like, I’m a perfectionist. And because I haven’t done it exactly the way I think, I can’t even give myself credit. That means you’ll stay on the perfectionist cycle the rest of your life. You’re not losing weight to continue to never be good enough. You’re losing weight to say like, “I love me.”

Corrinne:

So we have to learn how to love ourselves all the way there. The other thing is like, if you’re feeling very uncomfortable if someone mentions your weight, I coached someone on this this last Sunday. And she said, “For me, it’s really hard because when people say those things to me, all I remember is sometimes when I got hurt earlier in my childhood because of being thin. And it’s activating that version of me now.”

Corrinne:

So we have to work on those things, otherwise the more weight you lose, the more you’re probably going to get compliments, but if every time you get a compliment it feels like a dagger, it feels unsafe, guess what we do? Even if we really think we want to lose weight, there’s a part of us that’s unresolved that thinks, no, this is not safe.

Corrinne:

We will start eating to protect the terrified version of us. Even if our version is sitting around every day feeling hopeless and sad, you will always choose hopeless and sad over terrified. And somebody has to teach you how to see these things, because these are the real reasons why we can’t lose weight.

Corrinne:

These are the things that are not getting talked about in the diet industry when they just give you a plan points or calorie app. That’s why it’s important that y’all listen to the podcast, you consider joining No BS whenever it’s open. It’s why you should take the free course over at nobsfree course.com, because no one’s teaching you that right now.

Corrinne:

And I don’t want you stuck in the cycle of thinking something’s wrong with you because you can’t stick to your weight loss plan. There’s nothing wrong with you. No one’s teaching you what you really need to work on and what you need to resolve, so that you can lose your weight. So that you can enjoy the foods that you eat.

Corrinne:

So you can do the like, food can taste good and you can eat it and you don’t have to hoover it. All right. How bad is it to change your 24-hour doable plan on the day, e.g., last minute meal out? Thanks in advance. She only started yesterday. Here’s what I want you to think. I don’t want you to think it’s bad. It’s not bad.

Corrinne:

What it is, is it’s a behavior that you will want to closely examine. So sometimes we’ll, like if you get a last minute invite out, that’s not a problem. I like to think about what is our reasoning behind what we choose to eat. So let’s say that you get a last minute invite to The Cheesecake Factory. And you were going to be at home and your plan was to eat pork chops, rice and some delicious Pinto beans.

Corrinne:

That was going to be your dinner. You go to The Cheesecake Factory and you decide, all right, what would be as close as a swap as I could get? I can be like, “I can’t really get a pork chop, but maybe I’ll get grilled chicken and some beans and I’ll get a potato or something.” I would call that, like I swapped. I thought about it. I was intentional. And I did my very best to stay in integrity.

Corrinne:

That’s the habit that we want. We want the habit of thinking about our goals, what’s best for us and stuff. But if you go to The Cheesecake Factory and everybody’s eating fried wontons, nachos, pasta out the ass, and you’re like, “I don’t want to miss out. I don’t get to go out very often. Somebody bring me nachos start. I’m going to take a break tonight.”

Corrinne:

Not a pattern that we want to repeat. We’re not staying in integrity with ourselves. We’re not thinking things through. What we’re doing is we’re listening to our bullshit excuses and coming up with good reasons to just eat whatever we want. The reason why most of us are overweight is because we’re running through life eating the whips, emotions.

Corrinne:

And by what we feel like we want in the moment, instead of what we feel like we most want for our life. So that’s kind of how I like to think about it. What would you say to someone who continually starts over, makes plans to do something big, does well for two to three weeks, loses 20 pounds and then just quits?

Corrinne:

Maintains at that point for a while, then slowly gains weight back in a continuous cycle. Why can’t I ever follow through and keep going? You need to look at, first of all, if you’re losing 20 pounds in three weeks, I would want to know like, what the fuck are you doing? Most of the time, what happens in this cycle is people get really excited about the planning.

Corrinne:

A lot of people get really excited about knuckling down and they don’t think about the long-term. So you need to just ask yourself, what do I do during those two to three weeks? Is that sustainable? If not, I need to start creating a plan out the gate that’s more sustainable. I also need to figure out like, why do I Peter out? Is it because I tell myself I’m too tired?

Corrinne:

Is it because I get sick and tired of what I’m doing? What happens? That will give you indications as to why you get stuck in that loop, because you’re going to have to change the game. You’re going to change the game, how you think about it, how you approach it. You have to override a lot of things.

Corrinne:

So if you’re one of my members and you’re doing that, please post that shit in the group. I don’t teach you that at all. We teach you how to start at a pace that’s sustainable. Because losing 20 pounds is three weeks is great, but it’s not great if you can’t keep going. But we get caught in our head like, no, no, no. I need to like…

Corrinne:

There’s going to be a magic day where I’m going to be doing some kind of asshole shit that after three weeks, I’m just going to be riding high and so proud. Most of us, this is what we do. We take everything we love away, we willpower and tell ourselves, “You have to eat this. You have to eat this. You need to get some of this weight off, blah, blah, blah.”

Corrinne:

And then everything that we eat, we sit there and say like, “Oh my God, I hope I don’t do this wrong. Oh my God, I hope I’m not going to screw up. I wonder when the other shoe going to drop.” We’re doing those three weeks at high levels of anxiety. We might start, this is the funny thing, excitement and anxiety feel very similar in the body. First you may be excited because you’re like, “I’m going to do this.”

Corrinne:

You’ve got thoughts that have got you committed, but then I’m going to do this wears off pretty fast. And it switches over to, you said you would do it. You have to do it. And you talk to yourself like shrill, you question everything you put in your mouth, you get on scale every fucking day. Worry what it’s going to say, over index everything it’s saying.

Corrinne:

You don’t even get excited that you’re losing weight. It’s like you might like, “Oh thank God, I lost some weight. I hope I can keep this shit up.” And when we do things with all of that mindset, yeah, you run out of energy. Your brain can only work under stress like that for so long and then it just breaks. And it’s like, well, you need a break.

Corrinne:

You’ve been doing so good. It’ll give you this luscious sexy talk. We call it, it’s like new hotness comes in town. It’s like, oh my God, look at your commitment. You should go out with the girls this weekend. Let’s have a drink. You got you’re new jeans. A little bit won’t hurt. Oh, that’s going to feel lovely. And you know what’s going to feel, fucking better than that shit you’ve been saying about trying to lose weight.

Corrinne:

And then the moment that rush comes over your body, your brain’s going to be like, we should drink and eat more. That’s why it happens. You have to learn how to deal with that. Y’all that’s just, like the dieting industry don’t teach us how deal with shit that, but you have to unlearn these patterns of trying to do the same thing over and over again and hoping that this is going to be the time it works.

Corrinne:

The only time I lost 100 pounds and kept it off 15 years ago was the one time that I did it different than all the other ones. When I quit talking to myself like an asshole, when I took things slower. And within 18 months I’d lost 100 pounds by making small ass changes, not big sweeping ones.

Corrinne:

If you want to know what those small changes are, go to nobsfree course.com. Download the free course. You’ll get to watch my videos. I tell you exactly what I did when I started. I send out Monday motivation emails. I’ll send you a Friday podcast email so that you never forget the podcast. Then you can listen to Losing 100 Pounds.

Corrinne:

Y’all we got to do it different if we’re going to start… Here’s what we do know, I looked the stat up the other days as I was studying for a course that I’m getting ready to write for my membership. The CDC says 71% of Americans are now classified as overweight and obese.

Corrinne:

If 71% of us are overweight, then the fucking diet industry is, like legit we now have proof they’re teaching it wrong. Otherwise, there’s no shortage of them. They’d work. It’s your mental game. I promise every one of you, it is your mental game. All right. Y’all have an amazing month.

Corrinne:

I’ll be back next month. I always come live on the third Tuesday of the month at 10:00 AM Central time. For my No BS women, tomorrow for Q&A, you will have coach MJ and she is going to be rolling out the brand new drink plan so that you can drink and lose weight. I’ve crafted it, I have tested it and we are rolling it out to you tomorrow in the Q&A.

Corrinne:

So she’s going to take you through. She’s going to show you a video of me making my own drink plan in Las Vegas. So you can see me actually answering my questions, talking through everything that’s on the worksheet and then all of you will have it. All right. Y’all have a good one. Bye. Thank you so much for listening today.

Corrinne:

Make sure you head on over to nobsfree course.com and sign up for my free weight loss training on what you need to know to start losing your weight right now. You’ll also find lots of notes and resources from our past podcast to help you lose your weight without all the diet advice. I’ll see you next week.