Corinne:
Hi, I’m Corinne. After a lifetime of obesity, being bullied for being the fattest kid in the class and losing and gaining weight like it was my job, I finally got my shit together and I lost 100 pound. Each week I’ll teach you no weight loss advice you can use to overcome your battle with weight. I keep it simple. You’ll learn how to quit eating and thinking like an asshole. You stop that, and weight loss becomes easy. My goal is to help you lose weight the way you want to live your life. If you are ready to figure out weight loss, then let’s go.
Hello, everyone. Welcome to this month’s Q and A. I’m Corinne Crabtree, host of the Losing 100 Pounds podcast, the founder and CEO of the No BS weight loss program. And this is where you get to see my cat walk right across the screen. If you have been following me for a while, you know that Lou Al loves nothing better than to be involved in everything that I do. So we are going to talk all things. Weight loss today, which means I will be answering your questions. If you are watching the replay, all you’ve got to do is watch the comments and I will bet your question gets answered. So without further ado, let’s start with a couple of questions that came in since the last time we were together. If you don’t know, this particular Facebook live happens on the third Tuesday of every month at 10:00 AM central time.
All right, first question. If I don’t have to weigh, measure, or count calories, how do I know how much to eat? So if you’ve been following me for a long time, you know that inside my free course and inside the podcast, we don’t do calorie counting around No BS. I just don’t believe in it. I lost my weight not counting calories. I have taught thousands of people to lose weight without counting calories. It works like a charm. Here’s what you need to know. The diet industry has taught us to ignore mother nature, to ignore what our physical body is telling us it needs for food. How much it needs, when it needs food and everything. So if you think about traditional diets, what they do is they will say like, here’s how many calories you should eat. And this is how I know it doesn’t work because I tried weight Watchers about a 400,000 times starting at the age of I believe 11, I have tried My Fitness Pal, back in the day Spark People. Who remembers Spark People? Like all the things.
So I would have days where at one o’clock in the afternoon, I would’ve ran out of calories. And the rest of the day I had to just fucking starve. I’d sit there and think my cat looked tasty as it walked by and I couldn’t hold out. I had to ignore that my body was hungry. There were days where at eight o’clock at night, I had plenty of calories left over. I had a day where I wasn’t that hungry. Guess what points taught me? Guess what calories taught me? Ignore your body. Just eat anyway. I had days where I knew we would be going out to eat that night. So I would starve and save my calories all day long, barely eat, just so that when I went out to eat, I could relax eat. I could overeat. I could ignore my body signals and just stuff my face. None of that helped me ever lose weight and keep it off, because I did not learn the skill of listening to what I truly needed.
So when you are listening to the podcast and when you take the free course, there are two questions that I have you answer. And if you’re wondering what’s this free course you keep talking about Corrine? You keep speaking the magic here, go to noBSfreecourse.com and sign up. And you will hear everything that I’m teaching in a little bit more detail. But basically I have you ask two questions, because it only takes two questions to lose weight. Before you put anything in your fucking mouth ask, are you hungry? Because if your body is not slightly hungry, then your body has plenty of stored calories to live on. When you ask, am I hungry, and you check in for physical hunger, guess what we’re no longer doing? If you ain’t physically hungry, you ain’t going to eat because it’s time, because you’re afraid the next meal will be too far from now.
You’re not going to eat because somebody brought in free donuts. If you ain’t hungry, we don’t eat the free donuts. We say, no thank you. If you’re not physically hungry, guess what other eating you cut out? Being the cleanup crew, the garbage can, the disposal for everything that junior don’t eat on his dinner plate. Show of hands or do an emoji of how many of us have cooked some dinner, kids didn’t finish, and instead of letting it go to waste, we’re just sitting there spoonful after spoonful popping something in our mouth. That last bite of mac and cheese, that extra chicken nugget that didn’t get ate, whatever it is. When you ain’t hungry, that’s what happens when you make yourself start asking the question, you have to face all the moments when you’re eating for some reason, other than being hungry. And when you figure that part out, guess what?
Number one, you’re going to lose some weight. ‘Cause you’ll cut out some of your bullshit eating quite easily. Number two, what ends up happening is you start seeing why diets fail you because they’re not talking to you about how do I, like at eight o’clock at night? I know I’m not hungry, but I don’t know how to relax. I’m go, go, go all day. And when I slap my kids in bed and I’m sitting on the couch at eight o’clock, I either need to eat some ice cream to calm myself down, Corinne, I’m just going to sit there and I’m just going to ruminate over what else I should be doing. I’m going to think about chores I didn’t get done. I’m going to dread tomorrow and all the things on my list. So rather than this is what most of us do is like, I should lose weight. I should lose weight.
We pick something that doesn’t teach us how to figure out why we keep eating traditional diets. All they do is take away the food and they leave you with that shit of a brain of yours. They don’t teach you how to identify your eating patterns. They don’t teach you what to do. They don’t teach you how to practice some self care, mama, at night without food. Most of us don’t … It is astounding to me. How many women feel so pressured to perform these days. It ain’t good enough that we work and that we’re mom. We got to be doing all of it. And we supposed to feel guilty if we can’t. So it is no wonder. So many of you are eating your face off at four o’clock in the afternoon in the transition period, eight o’clock at night, as you’re trying to transition to bed.
When we spend all of our mental energy so jacked up feeling not good enough, not enough time, we should be doing more, thinking about who we’re letting down, how we’re not … I’m not connecting with my kids, because I’m so busy when we’re spending all of our emotional energy there, food becomes a big deal. And so the reason why I tell you all this is because when you start learning how to use your body as a guide, what you also learn are all the reasons you eat outside of your body. And if you have a program that teaches you how to identify all of those reasons and what to do about it, because the answer isn’t just don’t eat. Otherwise, if you feel, like let’s just take mom guilt. If every night at eight o’clock you are eating because you feel guilty that you can’t get everything done, that you just can’t be everything to everyone, that you don’t give you feel bad you don’t give five minutes to yourself, just taking food away in order to lose weight, doesn’t change your mental concept of yourself.
You’re just left with no way to cope with your thoughts about your life. And so you need a program that says, “Hey, we’re identifying these things and now going to start digging into how do we think different? How do we let go of unrealistic daily expectations of ourselves? What is that process like? What is changing all of that?” So you don’t need … One of the things that I teach in the free course and what we drive home inside the NO BS weight loss program with all of my private members is it is not enough to stop overeating. We have to stop overthinking, over busying, over worrying, over procrastinating, over numbing, over tuning out. There are so many other over things that must also be taken into consideration, into the equation of weight loss.
And when you really solve those things, when your program really helps you with that, you know exactly how much to eat because your body will tell you, your body will let you know when you’re hungry, truly hungry. And I mean slightly hungry. We don’t wait until we’re starving, and your body will let you know when it’s had enough. And then we go to work on how to meet all your emotional needs that you’ve been using the food to compensate with. All right, let’s see what other questions we’ve got. Let me get my glasses on. Corinne can’t read without ’em. All right. What about fasting? Everyone is talking about fasting and how healthy it’s for your body. All right. So fasting is not new. Fasting is one of those things, there’s research on both sides of the equation. I don’t teach fasting. Everybody naturally fasts every night. I don’t know why we need extra fasting. I mean, you go to bed and you don’t eat. Most of us are going to go to bed around, well, most of us don’t go to bed as early as Corinne. Let’s just be really honest here.
Corinne like to go to bed between 7:30 and eight o’clock at night because I am preparing for being an amazing 80 to 90 year old lady. I’m just getting a head start at 48. So fasting happens naturally overnight. My thing is is the first time you get hungry in the morning, then break your fast. I don’t think it has to be a certain amount of hours. I just don’t agree with it. Let me tell you why. There are several things I don’t agree with fasting. Number one is there is research out there that says that it is not helpful for some women. It can be more detrimental to women’s metabolisms. We’re not necessarily engineered to do long fasts. The second thing is it bastardizes the relationship with food very often. Most women, before they start fasting, what they’ll do is they’ll fast just to lose weight and they’ll do it in a way where I have to. If I don’t fast, I’ll get fat. They do it with anxiety and pressure. And I don’t want anybody losing weight with anxiety and pressure.
There’s a lot of research that also says that fasting is a trigger for a re-flare up in eating disorders and things like that. My personal opinion is if you want information about fasting and stuff, find a new weight loss person because I don’t teach my people to do it. I don’t think there’s anything wrong if you want to do it, but you need to have rock solid reasons other than just to lose weight. And this is because when you lose your reasons to lose weight, let’s say you lose weight with some fasting, but you hate it. You don’t see yourself … I always teach people only lose weight the way you’re going to live the rest of your life. You want to fast for the rest of your life? Then it’d be a great program for you. If you don’t want to fast for your rest of your life and this is going to be a temporary bandaid, it’s not great for you because if you’re only doing it to lose weight, eventually you’re going to lose weight.
And then when you have your weight loss reason why gone, you have no more, no more willpower and motivation to want to fast. So you take that out. Well, you haven’t practiced eating like a normal person and your brain only knows two versions of you. Fasting version, eat your face off like a fucking maniac version. Out of control around food or emotional eater, whatever it is. So when you take away the fasting, it’s just like, all right, we got to go back to what we did. It is not like you’re going to go from fasting to this crafted normal eater that you dream that you would be. If you lost weight, any person that you want to be, you have to practice that version in order to be it. That’s why so many people regain their weight after they lose weight. They do extreme things. They’ll do Octavia. They’ll do keto. They’ll do fasting. They’ll do points. They’ll do calories. They’ll do all this stuff. And they never once ask themselves, am I excited to do this for the next 40 years?
They’ll be excited to do it for six to eight months so that they can lose weight. They’ll be excited about the result, but they hate the process. If you don’t like your process, if you don’t like the things that you’re going to do to lose the weight, you’re never going to keep it off. I’ve never met anyone who lost weight like an asshole and has kept the weight off. I have hundreds and hundreds of people joined my membership every year who lost weight like an asshole, regained weight and don’t know how to lose weight safely. I have a lot of that. Ask in the comments here, how many people have done some extreme diet where they knew going in that they were more excited about losing the weight than they were about what they had to do to lose it. And then the moment that weight came off or they got close, that shit started coming right back, because they never really dealt with their emotional eating. They never really dealt with learning how to eat in a way that they could live for the rest of their life. All right, let’s see.
Next question. First, Corrine, you’re the shit diggity technical term. That’s awesome. My question. I know you’ve explained this, but I’m still confused. How do you navigate listening for hunger while needing to stick to a schedule for teachers and stuff? That’s a great question. It’s actually going, if you are a No BS woman, I literally … So we are rewriting the flagship course. Modules one and two are coming out in October, modules three and four are getting their facelift just like me and Dolly Parton would do. That stuff is going to come out in January. Because I want to really spend some time on, I love our overeating stuff that we have now. And then I want to put a lot of body image work into the No BS rewrite. But module ones and two, it’s getting done and we’ll release for all of you in October. And I just hit on this yesterday as I was writing the script for hunger.
So I’ll explain it real quick. If you need to eat on a schedule, so the way that I teach it is you ask, am I hungry? And if you’re not hungry, guess what? We don’t eat. But today is a good example for me. I have to eat on a schedule today. I have y’all at 10 o’clock. I have meetings all the way to 2:30 and I mean back to back, there’s no breaks. And then at 2:30 I have to leave the house and go straight to the doctor’s office for an hour and a half procedure. So I was not hungry for breakfast. So my option was like, well am I going to wait until five o’clock to eat? Because I will not have an eating opportunity until five o’clock. So today is one of those days where I was just like, all right, I’m going to go ahead and eat now knowing that I would’ve gotten hungry and that’s fine. So I’m going eat, just knowing what my day is like. That also prevents me from overeating because here’s what’s happening.
When I’m doing that, I am thinking intentionally about how much food is going to last me. What I really teach for everyone is we’re going to think before we eat, instead of we’re going to eat out of reaction to what’s going on in life. Most of us are eating on a whim. We’re eating spontaneously. We’re eating by our emotion of the moment. What sounds good? We eat for 1,000 reasons other than thinking it through. And when you use your brain to think through you consider more than just the immediate need. Sometimes if, let’s say you’re really tired at six o’clock at night, you’re tired. You’ve had a long day. All the things most of us are just like fuck it. And we eat in reaction to being tired. We don’t think it through. We think about what we might want to eat in the moment, but we’re not really thinking. And so what I teach is we want to think things through. So that in that moment, we’re not just hearing how tired we are. We’re hearing, you’re tired. You need to also be cared for.
So what would be a way to eat right now that would really be practicing genuine self care? And when you ask really good questions and you think it through your choices change, and you consider the whole self. Not just, I’m fucking stressed and tired, and I need to not feel this anymore. When we do that, when we react and we don’t think, we are eating like it’s an urgent thing that needs to be taken care of instead of thinking it through. So now for teachers and nurses and shift workers and all of you, what I suggest is if you know can’t eat for a while, you just go ahead and eat. No one’s overweight because they’re really thinking through what would be the best for them for the day. That’s not why we have weight problems. The second thing is, let’s say that I know a lot of teachers, they have asshole lunches. So it’s like, my lunch is at 10:10, or my lunch is at 1:50.
So if that’s the case, if you’re not hungry by the time you get to your meal, for some reason, you can start playing with it where you start dialing by how much you eat in the previous meal. So that by the time you get there, you are hungry. So it takes a week or two of playing around with food quantities at your previous meal. And then your body will start getting hungry for it. The same thing happens for all of you who are like, I’m not hungry when my family eats. So when you first start doing my program, you might be like, I really want to eat with my family. That’s like a core value of mine. I don’t want to just sit there and look at them like, I don’t want to do that. So if you really want to participate in the family meal by actually eating, but y’all eat at five and you’re never hungry at five, then take your lunch and cut it in half. Or if you eat an afternoon snack, cut it in half.
Start playing with the quantities so that you’re not eating until you have enough. Eat ’til just enough to get you to hungry by the time you have a meal. But it takes playing with, I think a lot of you want to hear two questions, am I hungry? Have I had enough? And as of tomorrow it all works perfectly. Well, you told me what to do. I don’t understand, after 45 years of overeating in poor habits, that tomorrow I’m not perfect. Bitch, please. It is going to take some time. It always does. I’d much rather you play with it and be taking your time and figuring out what’s going work than for you to be sitting there going like, “This won’t work. I’m going right back to eating like an asshole, because it wasn’t perfect. I wasn’t perfect. It didn’t click the first time.”
If you are in No BS as a member, one of the new lessons that’s coming out with module one of No BS is all about phases of change. I have already been talking about it in the membership, but I am putting it inside module one, it’s the very last thing. Because I am teaching you the four basics, unlike you’ve ever been taught before. We are going to talk a lot about the diet trauma, why this isn’t so automatic for us, why our brain throws a hissy fit, why [inaudible 00:22:12] so much? Why is all that happening? And why do I get so demoralized, demotivated, knocked off my game when things just aren’t clicking automatically? All of that is going to be added to No BS. And the very last lesson I take you through what normal behavior change actually looks like because so many of you, the reason why you keep quitting your diets, and the reason why you keep quitting on yourself has nothing to do with other than one thing, you have a very unrealistic expectation as to how fast your brain should adapt to new information.
When you don’t understand how your brain works, when you don’t understand how change works, what the normal process is, then you’re comparing your progress to some fake fake ass definition that you’re not even equipped as a human being to do. And yet that’s the standard. And when you have a fake ass standard, that is impossible for a human brain to even do that does not make sense, and every day you’re holding yourself to it. Yeah. Weight loss feels really hard. Everything that doesn’t go the way you think it should with your unrealistic standards leaves you feeling hopeless or broken. You make it mean something’s wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with you. Your working definition of how it should all work is the only thing that’s wrong. And when we reset all that, oh my God, you lose like 10 pounds of emotional weight, emotional burden and emotional expectations so that you can get to work on the real process. The process of figuring things out, the process of playing with things, the process of redefining your habits a little bit at a time.
All right. Let’s see. Can you tell us about magnesium and what brand you use? Yeah, so I use two forms of it. Like if y’all in the chat will put Corinne’s faves for the public on there so that they can order it. There is a product I take called sleep remedy. This is if you want magnesium, that also will help you sleep. So magnesium does a lot of things. One, it helps you sleep. It helps with cramps. It just helps with a lot of stuff. So I take three sleep remedy pills every single night before I go to bed, about 20, 30 minutes before I go to bed, it does not make you just pass out. So it’s not like you’re going to be like loopy, loopy, and it doesn’t make you groggy in the morning. It just makes sure that when you get to sleep, that you can get a more restful, deeper sleep, and it will make you like wind down. Magnesium is also really good for the nervous system. So for people that have anxiety, depression and stuff, magnesium has been found to really help with some of those things.
I forget technically how it does. It has something to do. I don’t know if synapses is the right word, because I am not your scientific guru. Okay. Everybody knows, Corinne will always tell you about the things she’s read, but this is not like I’m no doctor. I didn’t even go to college. I just read and listen to everything. But it helps those nerve endings for people who, specifically with anxiety. So I take three sleep remedies before I go to bed, we also drink natural calm. So my husband and I both have the same protocol. I’ve been doing this for three or four years now, probably at least four years now with sleep remedy and natural calm. We take a serving, whatever the serving on the bottle is of natural calm. You just mix it with some water. We actually take a half a liter of our water.
We use a product called extend X-T-E-N-D. This is not magnesium. It is branch chain amino acids. It is not a diet supplement. It just flavors, water. Nice. I drink grape. It’s good for weightlifters. So my husband and I, my husband is not a weightlifter, but we’ve been drinking Xtend for years. It’s also really good for exercisers, for electrolytes, all that kind of stuff. But we take a half a bottle of this with some Xtend in it. We dump the natural calm in it, shake it up. And then I drink that before I go to bed and yes, I get up once a night and I go to the bathroom for all y’all that are like, “Do you pee all night long?” I get up once a night and I pee. And then I go right back to bed. I’m still having a hard time getting my water in. I just don’t like to drink very much of anything. Any tips?
So for all of you who are No BS women, I just rewrote this script this morning. There’s going to be a dedicated video to water and sleep, their importance, the role they play, all the things inside of the No BS new version of module one. The easiest way to do it is to get you a bottle of water, 16 ounces or a glass, if you don’t like drinking out a bottle, put it by your bed before you go to bed. In the morning when you wake up, thou feet do not hit the ground until thoust has drank the water. So you start with 16 ounces. Then if you eat three times a day, guess what? You drink 16 more ounces and you slam it before you eat. Just go, go, go, go. I can drink a whole, I can drink 16 ounces in about 15 seconds. That’s with me taking a break. So you just slam it. If you really don’t like water, then you’re just going to take your medicine. That’s the way I like to think about it.
If you do not like water, you just take your medicine. That’d be like saying, if I don’t take these pills, I’m going to die. And you’re been like, well, I don’t really like swallowing pills. I don’t know. We’re not bitching about it. Here’s what we’re going to do. We’re going to know that our body, if we want to lose weight, we’ll get serious about water. If we like our skin and we don’t want it to look like a prune, we will drink our water. If you don’t like headaches, drink fucking water. If you’d like to not have as many sugar cravings, if you’d like to quit having faux hunger signals, drink your water. No more bitching. Give yourself reasons why it’s like, I might not like it, but I do it anyway. It’s a way better way to think about it than to just be like, I don’t like it. I’m just going to think about how much I don’t like. I’m going to sit here and think. And I’m one of those people don’t like, instead of I’m one of those people who does shit they don’t like.
If you had a baby and they had shit their diaper, I guarantee you don’t sit there and be like, hallelujah. I was just waiting for somebody to take a dump. I can’t wait to clean an ass. Somebody quick, get me a wipe. Ain’t said no mother ever. You know what we do? When a baby shits their diaper, we’re like ugh, but you change it anyway. ‘Cause you like a freshie. So we just slam it. Now outside of that, anything you sip the rest of the day, you’re in glory land. All right. Do people join when they hit maintenance after they’ve lost all their weight? Oh yeah. A lot of people actually join our program. We have a maintenance course. So we have the last. So y’all are getting a … So there’s four modules of our maintenance course. We just had so many people lose weight. And so many people who’ve joined the program who have lost weight, listening to my podcast, who they’re like, “I’ve lost weight listening to the podcast, but I haven’t lost that mental weight.” That’s because they’re not doing all the things.
They’re just doing the things I tell them to lose weight. They’re not doing all the things that’s required to change who they are, how they think, their believability in their ability to be able to keep the weight off. So we have a dedicated maintenance course with a dedicated maintenance food planner that works on your maintenance mindset while you are learning how to keep your weight off without bells and whistles. Now, eventually you’re never going to get a payoff on the scale again, that wahoos gone. Eventually you adapt. That’s called hedonic conditioning. Eventually when you lose weight, you get used to the new you. And so does everybody else. So if you lost weight overly relying on everybody being excited about your weight loss, you being excited about what you’re doing, you being excited about the scale going down. It’s not that you can’t do that, but there are other things that have to be happening alongside of it. Because if you’re overly reliant on the process and the results of weight loss being exciting, then when all of that goes away and you’re just there, it can feel almost depressing.
It feels like something’s missing. Very often maintenance people say like I lost on my weight, and then all of a sudden, I didn’t know who I was. I’m like, now what now? What do I do? And they’re just looking at their life. And they’re like, wow, I didn’t watch my life. I didn’t like notice all this other stuff because I was so focused on weight loss. Then they look at their life and sometimes their life’s a little bit of a shit show or maybe they’re not that crazy in love with their job and all this other stuff. But the excitement of weight loss was distracting them from some of their key relationships and stuff that they need to work on. And so when they lose the weight and they’re sitting there staring at something they don’t love, guess what most people do? I’m going to recreate a weight problem so I can go back to focusing.
Now I can focus on how I don’t like my body and then I can go back to dieting. And then when I lose the weight, I’m back here looking at my life and I’m never figuring out my life. So one of the things that we do inside of No BS is I believe that while you lose weight, you have to start learning how to create the life you want also. Because when you take the food away, you will know how you talk to yourself. You will know the quality of the relationships around you. You will know if you feel like you have a purpose in life, outside of just trying to get thin. So it’s really important as a key component of weight loss is learning how to solve for that stuff because diets, they take the food away and you’re just left looking at your life with no way to cope. And I teach you how to think about your life, how to pull things apart, how to rebuild things, how to find excitement, how to find gratitude where you haven’t been able to, how to forgive, where you need to forgive.
And just how to have a relationship with yourself outside of always thinking about food and the size of your ass. And the same thing happens in maintenance. When people lose weight on other programs, very often they come into our program because they want to lose the mental weight that weight loss didn’t drop for them. Let’s see. Is there anything in the program to help with motivation, self-esteem, and confidence? Yeah. So we’re not sitting around teaching you what to eat. All of our modules, we teach you all about thinking. Your thinking is what drives your motivation. If you’re sitting around every day saying, “I can’t wait to plan my food, because this is going to make my life so much easier today.” You’re going to feel very motivated. If you’re sitting around thinking like, oh fuck, this day’s going to suck. I hope I don’t blow it. Then you’re going to feel very demotivated. So what we teach inside the program is we teach you frameworks around how do you find the thinking that could be demotivating you, that’s standing in the way of you feeling confident around food, yourself, and others.
The majority of the work we do on the inside is once I tell you the four basics, now we get to work on all the reasons why we want to eat when we’re not hungry. And most of us are eating when we’re not hungry because we don’t know how to motivate ourselves. We don’t know how to build confidence in ourselves. We don’t know how to speak to ourselves. We don’t know how to look into the mirror. We don’t know how to stop relying on what other people think for our own opinions of ourselves. That’s the bulk of what we work on inside. I notice that when I’m done eating, I eat half of what I put on my plate yesterday was more hungry than usual and ate everything that I put on my plate. Grand, it was less than what I used to put on my plate. Are there days when you’re more hungry than others? And do you still eat ’til done or eat what you usually eat, and then wait for the next meal? I always want you listening to your body. It does not matter.
That’d be like saying, well, somebody brought me a plate this big, or somebody brought me a plate this big. We’re not ever going to just eat what we always eat. ‘Cause it changes. So a good example, when I’m on my period, the first day I can barely eat. I am so bloated. So crampy, period headache, all the things. Food turns my stomach. I don’t eat much on the first day of my period. I sleep and bitch a lot, cry, but I am pretty much not eating on that day, except for a little bit of like, I love those dry ass Weight Watchers pizzas. Everybody knows that. That spinach mushroom, it’s actually a Lean Cuisine, but I just call it the dry ass Weight Watchers pizza. That spinach mushroom Lean Cuisine is about on the first day of my period almost all I can get down. I just have a hard time. Sometimes I can do oatmeal, but I just have a hard time that first day on my period.
Now, let’s say it’s middle of the month and it’s two days after a leg workout. I can promise you I’m going to be starving all day and I’m going to eat every single time I’m getting hungry. So if you’re more hungry than usual, that’s probably your body saying I’m working on something. So just eat. I like to always think this. I trust my body to watch out for me and it knows what’s going on on the inside and I don’t. I can guess, I can listen and stuff, but some days my body’s going to ask for more food. It knows what’s going on on the inside. Some days it asks for less food because it knows what’s going on on the inside. My main thing is I just have to be aware of when I am trying to eat from emotion. That is what I really, really, really want to focus on is I don’t want to be someone who feeds their emotions anymore.
Eating for my emotions, doesn’t solve my real problems. It’s only when Corinne is willing to look at her real problems and think about them and do something about them, do they ever get solved.Somebody said, they’re a new member. And she said, I’ve only been a private member for a month. And the almost daily revelations about myself have been stunning. I hope that’s the case for all of you because we pour so much of our heart and soul into making sure that you are growing as a woman. That you’re like, I want your body to shrink, but I want your self esteem, your self confidence and your belief in your self to grow. I want the capacity of what you believe in yourself to grow. And that’s what we work so hard at is that when you start really getting to where you believe in yourself and you really start thinking about things you can do for yourself, you start putting yourself into this position of like, maybe I am in more control over my life than I give myself credit for sometimes.
Maybe there’s areas of my life that I am just so focused on them not being right, that I’m missing the big picture of other things that are right. I try really hard to get people in weight loss to think bigger and better, because when you do it is so much easier to lose your weight. Because you’re not sitting around, consumed with what’s wrong with you, what other people don’t do for you, what other people are probably thinking about you? And I get it. I remember almost all of my life, just thinking everybody I would go to Target and somebody would make eye contact with me and my brain would just light up with, I bet she thinks that she can’t get through this aisle ’cause you’re too big. I would just think shit like that all the time. I wouldn’t even want to try on clothes at a Target. I would just buy a bunch of stuff and take it home because I didn’t want to go to the attendant with my clothes and something not fit and risk that she might think, oh, she’s just too fat to wear those things.
I lived my life in so much fear. And what I try to teach my members is how do we stop doing that at our current size, so that we can start living our life. ‘Cause the more you live your life and the more you’re able to like yourself right now, the easier it is to do good things for yourself. One of the things I’ve been thinking about is I had this thought the other day. I don’t remember where I was, but I was sitting there thinking about future selves. And I am that future version of me, this little girl, this one right here. I don’t look at this picture and think, oh my God, I’m so glad I’m not you, you fat cow. When I look at the versions of me that struggled with their weight, especially the version of me on that first day that was so broken and really, really wanted to lose weight. I don’t look back and call her names. I don’t look back and think she probably can’t do it.
Do you know what? I look back, and I think God, the amount of courage it took for her to get off that couch, the amount of courage it took for her to have a conversation with her husband to tell him that one more time I was going to try. The pride that I feel that she got up every day and did things not knowing if she was going to lose weight. She’s just operating on blind fucking faith. And I think about that and it makes me think if I would think that about her now, how many of you need to sit around and think that about yourself today? If the future version of you is not going to call you, names is not going to berate you. If she’s going to look back and be grateful, then that means you today need to be grateful that you’re willing to start. You need to recognize your courage. Any little thing you take as a step in the right direction, you should thank yourself. You should be there for yourself.
You should say, I am so proud that I’m willing to do this. Even when I still am afraid that I can’t lose weight. Those are the things that I teach inside. No BS. Those are the things that matter so much. How can I stay on track? When people are critical of my weight loss? Well, you can make this decision. Number one, people who are critical about your weight loss journey, do you want to eat and prove them, right? I mean, good Lord. If there’s anybody in the world that we’re not going to eat over, it’s going to be. If someone’s not supportive, here’s what your choice is. Do you want to prove them? Right? But then like, oh yeah, you’re right. I feel terrible. I should go eat so that you can be right. Prove them wrong. And here’s the thing. Opinions are like assholes. We all got one. Everybody’s going to have an opinion about what you’re going to do, but what you got to learn. And what we teach inside and No BS is there’s one opinion that matters the most. There’s always going to be a lot coming in.
Sometimes they hurt because we want them to be supportive, we expect them to think differently. But at the end of the day, before you try to change how somebody else thinks, before you expect somebody else to support you and to lift you up and to say the right things and do whatever it is, you have to go first. I tell people all the time, stop wasting time waiting on the other humans to get in line. When this human gets in line 100% behind herself, the rest of the opinions don’t matter as much. You don’t need them anymore. You might would like them to be different, but you don’t need them. When you aren’t there for you, then you need the other ones too.
So let’s just unlearn needing other people to think the way we want them to think. Just ask yourself, what do I wish all these bastards were saying or doing? And whatever that is then say like, where am I not doing it in my life for myself? Where in my head do I not do this right now? What’s that shit I wish they’d say? Oh yeah. How am I going to start saying that to myself? And when you get really good at that, then if you want to go change other people, go right ahead. But I guarantee you’ll lose the desire. You’ll start realizing and never needed all that shit. Just be like, opinion noted. Watch this.
I never know what foods I’m going to have each day. So how would I do your program? Not true. Everybody knows what foods they’re going to have for the day. I know. Y’all think this is crazy, but I guarantee you that the truth is there are meals you know about what’s going to be had. So let’s say that you have a partner who cooks at night and they’re like, “Bitch, I keep you in the dark. You cannot mess with my mojo. I need to be creative and never share a word with you.” All right. Guess what you write on your plan, what partner makes and I don’t eat it unless I’m hungry and I stop at enough. Boom. And we’re done. You go into a restaurant.
First of all, most of us go to the same fucking restaurants all the time. I don’t know that many people who … I asked somebody the other day, highest number I’ve ever gotten, I was like, all right, here’s what we’re going to do since you and your partner are going to eat the Uber Eats every single night and you don’t know where you and your partner are going to go. How many different places do you want to Uber eats from? And she was like, I don’t know, 20. I said, all right, that’s easy. Now you know the 20 most frequent restaurants, you go to. Bitch, get you out a piece of paper, pull up your Uber eats. Write down. When I go to Chong Chong, this is what I order. When I go to La Hacienda, this is what I order. When I go to Logan’s, this is what I order. And when I’m at the Panera, this is what I order. And you put it in your purse. And then now you’ve got your plan.
So where I don’t care if y’all have a spinning wheel in your house with your 20 different places that you Uber Eat, and it’s just like black gold and spin, let’s see where we’re going today. You’ve got a plan. Here’s the thing. Y’all have to quit thinking this. I can’t control what I eat. At the heart of this problem is not the difficulty in my boss is going to bring in some surprise luncheon every day this week. First of all, you’re always in control of what you put in your mouth. You could take a guess. You could ask. You could look at where you most frequently dine. If you open your mind up to the idea of, I control everything that goes into my mouth. So if I wanted to have control over food, what would I be doing? Here’s one thing I know we wouldn’t be doing, saying well, I can’t control none of it. That is not what somebody who controls what goes on their mouth says
When I go to Vegas, I don’t know what we’re doing. I go to Vegas every three weeks. When I go out of town for meetings, I don’t know what we’re doing, but you know what? I don’t think I don’t can’t control what’s being served. There’s one person that orders. There’s one person that uses the fork. There’s one person that puts the food in their mouth. I’m the common denominator. So I’m always going to think about what all is in my control. What all can I be doing? Because if you are in my membership, you know I don’t take any food away from you. I don’t care if every day of the week, you’re served ding dongs, eclairs, Twinkies and a side of melted cheeses and fondue. You can make it work. If you ain’t eating like an who thinks that they can’t control themselves around food.
When you unlearn that behavior, you’ll be fine. Weight loss is about the emotional side of things. It’s about giving up. So many people would say, well, I can’t plan my food. So then they’ll eat a lot. They’ll be like, well fuck it. If I can’t put a plan, I’m just going to eat what I want, and how much I want. That’s not not knowing where you’re going’s fault. That’s you thinking you have no control over yourself. If you walk up to a buffet and you think I’m going to eat ’til enough, versus fuck it. I didn’t get to make a plan. You’re going to eat very differently.
All right, let’s do this. When is the next membership opening happening. End of September. So make sure that you go to join No BS. Oh, not join No BS. Go to nobsfreecourse.com. Make sure you are on our mailing list so that you’ll get the free course. And if you get the free course, you are given a quick invitation to join. So if you’re newer to us and you’ve never done anything, what I don’t want to do is make you wait for openings. Because we only open basically twice a year. We do two big openings every year. Every now and then we’ll do a small opening. But if you want in right now and you’ve never taken the free course, go take the free course, that will get you in the door.
If, otherwise, for all of you, who’ve been hanging out and kind of waiting. We will open the doors. It’s the week of September the 25th, we’re going to be running a seven day weight loss kickstart. And the membership will open during that week. There will be a lot more information coming out about it next month. Right now I don’t have information. There’s nowhere to go to register. There’s none of that stuff. The best bet everybody has is noBSFreecourse.com take the free course. You will get a special invitation if you are newer to us and you want to join now, otherwise it’s the end of September. And then we’ll be opening the doors.
Can you give me some tips on breaking the habit of eating while doing something else? Work, social media, watching TV, driving. Sometimes I’m just completely unaware in the moment. Yeah. This is a one that you can do. One is if you’re like wherever you’re at, keep a small plate, we call it the BLT plate. Keep a plate there, wherever it is that you’re doing. If you’re watching TV, keep a plate next to you on the couch. Every time you eat something, whatever you eat, put that on the plate so that you start noticing, oh, I have to put it on the side plate. One is to make you aware of how much you’re actually overeating mindlessly. Another thing is, if you’re eating in the car, it can’t just happen in the car. Don’t put food in your car. I made a deal with myself a long time ago that I wasn’t going to eat in the car anymore.
And I just made it a rule for myself. So I don’t put food in the car. Even if we go on a road trip, I don’t eat in the car. It is very rare that you will see me eating in the car. If we are going on a long road trip where we are not going to be able to stop to get food, I will eat a Subway sandwich, but I’m very, I know me. I don’t want to eat in the car because when I’m eating in the car, when I’m eating scrolling my phone and things like that, I’m not enjoying my food. I’m distracted. I like my food too much to eat it like a jerk. So I want to be able to sit in it and enjoy it. So I always make sure that I just don’t eat in the car. Last question. How do you stay consistent with your habits?
I’m still learning and know this process ebbs and flows. But I also know that know why I’m strong at times and keep going. Whereas other times I struggle, that’s going to be the phases of change. So if you’re a no BS woman that you want, you can watch right now, if you just type in phases of change in the video replace, we already have videos where I explain it. It just takes time for it to come on. But here’s the thing y’all. Even with habits, most of us get to where we do it. About 80% of the time. If you think about any habit that you have in life, you’re probably about 80%. There’s only one habit that I have that I am probably a … Well, I would say I’m a hundred percent on and that’s brushing my teeth. I don’t even shower every day. Some days I’m just like, I don’t even feel like showering.
Most habits are once you get above or at 80%, that’s considered consistency. That’s considered, it’s more of a part of you and you will miss it if you’re not doing it. So you’re more likely to kick it back up really quick. So that’s the first thing that I would think about. Secondly, if you want to just, how do you stay consistent? If you want to stay consistent with habits, you have to have really good thoughts about them. So one thing that I watch people do is they try to build healthy habits while talking about them like an asshole. I hate doing this. This is so much time. This sucks. I wish I didn’t have to do this. When you have a shitty story around your habits, it’s really hard to want to be consistent with them. You’re drumming up a lot of dread. So you need to have a better story around them.
I choose to do this for these reasons. It’s a lie when I say I don’t want to do this. I don’t feel like doing the action, but I really want the result of it. Just like going to the gym. Most days I want the result. I don’t love going. I’d like to just keep working. I’d like to sleep in. I could think about all the things I would like to be doing, but I always remind myself. It’s like, just get in the car. You’ll feel better after. You always say this stuff. That’s all right, but we’re going to go anyway. It’s a lot of times it’s just being very aware of the conversation you have around your habits. That’s very helpful. And then also just realizing most of us are about 80%. Life’s going to happen. You’re not going to be able to do everything. Just like I’ve had surgery in my life.
I didn’t brush my teeth every day when I’ve had surgery. Sometimes I couldn’t walk in there. Does that mean that I haven’t went to the toilet? No. So we just have to remember that like 80% is really good for a lot of things. All right. Y’all, that’s it. Don’t forget to listen to the podcast Losing 100 Pounds with Corinne. It comes out every Friday. The free course is at nobsfreecourse.com. We will have another opening for nobs membership at the end of September. Otherwise I will see you next month third Tuesday, if the month, 10:00 AM central time right here on Facebook. Talk to you later. Oh, and if you like this tag someone or share it on your timeline, that would be super helpful. All right, y’all have a good one. Bye.
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