In this video I discuss candidly how I’ve grown to finally like myself.
I used to be my own worst critic so I couldn’t stand being alone. I’d either eat or surround myself with people so I didn’t have to listen to myself.
I also answer their questions on things we’re working on inside our private membership. You’ll hear me discuss…
How to quit eating until you are full…even when you love it.
Why overeating isn’t the worst thing we can do for weightloss.
Why journaling is important to your weightloss.
Corinne got locked out of her Facebook account and had to film a video instead of doing her usual Wednesday public live.
In the last few weeks, Corinne has traveled a lot. She’s getting ready to travel again. She’ll be learning how to up-level all of her digital courses. All the courses for next year will be completely up-leveled.
Corinne has always been someone who wants to be around people and she’s been around a lot of people in the last 8 weeks. She told Kathy that she needs a few days where she can be by herself.
She always has wanted to be around people because she needed validation. She wanted to distract herself from the way she thought about herself and she wanted to be around people that would accept her because she wasn’t accepting of herself.
She used to use food to avoid being alone with herself. Once she got food under control, she threw herself into business and being around people to once again avoid being alone with herself.
She thinks she now desires some time alone because she finally accepts who she is.
The difference for her these days is that she knows that she doesn’t have everything together and that’s okay. Before she didn’t have everything together and she thought that meant something was wrong with her. When she had that belief she thought she had to have food to distract her. Once she solved her weight problem, she needed people to distract her from thinking something was wrong with her.
In the last year, Corinne has realized that she doesn’t have her shit together any more now than before, but she’s not judging herself for it.
It’s normal to have bad days and it’s normal to not love yourself at every moment.
When she does catch herself judging herself, instead of beating herself up for it, she questions what is going on. She understands that the mess of life is just part of life.
She wants to figure out how to do that for the Tribe members.
She thinks many people are still overeating because they aren’t accepting that overeating is part of their process.
Quit making overeating such a monumental thing.
Focus on what’s driving the overeats and clean that mess up and then see if you’re overeating anymore. Instead, people focus on the shame and judgment over the overeats.
Corinne asks herself “what am I scared of in this moment?”
Corinne was at an event and everyone wanted to go out afterwards. In the past, she would have gone because it was expected. Instead, she expected herself to be tired and not want to be around people. She went back to the hotel instead.
She’s craving more alone time because in those quiet moments, it’s not a shit show anymore. She notices her feelings, but doesn’t judge them anymore.
She’s going to update her journal in the tribe, but has been using free moments to get in the private member Facebook group.
She’s been learning a lot at all the events she’s been at.
One of the lessons she’s learned is to not try to change how she’s thinking, just be aware of it and sit with it and be okay with it. She wants to notice the conversation she’s having with herself when she’s alone at night or after a long day. The more she notices what she’s thinking without judgment, the more she’s changed her thinking on accident. It’s become more natural to go “I think I want to think something different, I don’t want to think this right now.”
She wants her tribe members to know that it’s okay to lose weight slower than you think you need to, to make smaller changes than you think are required, and to do it easier than you think it should be.
Give yourself the opportunity to see yourself performing in a way that feels differently than you normally do.
We tend to start really hard and then bomb out.
Do it slower, more deliberate, and in a more purposeful way.
Questions & Answers
Q. Do you think some of the confidence came with age and wisdom?
A. It’s not necessarily age, but definitely wisdom. If she hadn’t started self-development and thinking on purpose, she’d be a 45 year old woman with the same issues, making the same mistakes. Corinne has worked really hard on understanding how she thinks, understanding how she wants to think, and practiced thinking in new ways. When it comes to losing weight, here’s what you need to know: eat when you’re actually hungry, stop when satisfied, drink plenty of water, get plenty of sleep, and plan your food. That is the technical part of losing weight.
The hard part is learning to think differently. Listen to content as much as you can. During free time consume knowledge. Corinne listens to self-development while putting on makeup, showering, exercising, driving, etc. She’s consuming stuff that helps her to be the person she wants to be. Make good use of your down time. Tribe members should listen to the private member podcasts. In the last two years, Corinne has been crazy focused on learning as much as she can so that she can better help the tribe members. She’s read at least 100 books and listened to at least 5000 podcast episodes. Times going to pass one way or another. You can consume useless information or something that will help you grow.
Corinne also takes quiet time and goes out and actually thinks. She takes a walk and puts her brain to work on something she wants to solve. If you’re struggling with overeats, take some time without judgement and think about:
*Things you haven’t tried yet
*Ways you can solve this
*Ask yourself, if you were open to anything working, what would you be doing?
*What am I doing right now that I know is not working?
Q. I’m on vacation and I intended to journal, but the last two days was completely off-plan. Why does this happen?
A. Because you make choices, that’s it. Don’t complicate it. If you’re curious, ask yourself “what happened?” It’s probably something easy, it’s not a character flaw. Going off the plan does not lead to more off-plan eats. You actively decided to eat more. You think this is how it is, rather than this is how I’m thinking about it. The action is more food. The circumstance is off-plan eating. The thought is it leads to more food. You feel frantic or panicked or disgusted. This leads you to eat off-plan even more. You have to control your thoughts and say “that’s wrong, the only reason I’m eating more is because I’m thinking I’m going to eat more.” Rather than say fuck it, save the rest of the day. You can stop now.
Q. Do you need to do a recovery worksheet for a small unplanned bite?
A. Yes. Corinne wants to know all the little things because each little thing keeps you a little further from your goal. Don’t do it from a place of judgment, but from a place of learning and curiosity.
Q. I’m going over my 2 because I seek out a full stomach, what should I do?
A. I like feeling full is a thought, not a fact. It’s a thought that won’t help you lose weight. You need to think “a full stomach only leads to weight gain.” At one point in Corinne’s life, the feeling of full brought her comfort. As an adult, she had to redefine what was comforting. Learning how to manage her +2 became comforting. Knowing she can listen to her thoughts is comforting. Start with leaving a little food behind to allow yourself the process of being uncomfortable. If it’s hard, it’s because it’s something different.
Q. On the days I didn’t write a plan, can I write down what I ate afterwards?
A. Yes. Occasionally when traveling, Corinne will have to make a plan part of the way through the day and write down what she’s already had or write everything down at the end of the day. She tries to always show up for herself no matter what.
*The six month coaching program with Corinne closes on October 28th.
*All the 2020 events are on the website for tribe members.
*The new purse-sized planner will release the first week of November for members.
*Members can print out or order the full-sized planner now.
*There are exciting changes in November. There will be a monthly tribe call with Corinne called “The Recovery Worksheet Lab.”
*Handling the Holidays will be start in November in the tribe.