How To Like Yourself

Accepting Who You Are

In this video I discuss candidly how I’ve grown to finally like myself.

I used to be my own worst critic so I couldn’t stand being alone. I’d either eat or surround myself with people so I didn’t have to listen to myself.

I also answer their questions on things we’re working on inside our private membership.

You’ll hear me discuss…

  • How to quit eating until you are full…even when you love it.
  • Why overeating isn’t the worst thing we can do for weightloss.
  • Why journaling is important to your weightloss.

 

 

 

Acceptance:

I used to use food to avoid being alone with myself.  Once I got food under control, I threw myself into business and being around people to once again avoid being alone with myself.

I have always wanted to be around people because I need validation. I wanted to distract myself from the way I thought about myself and I wanted to be around people that would accept me because I wasn’t accepting of myself.

I think I now desire some time alone because I finally accept who I am.

I’m craving more alone time because in those quiet moments, it’s not a shit show anymore. I notice my feelings, but don’t judge them anymore.

Not Having Everything Together Is Ok:

In the last year, I have realized that I don’t have my shit together any more now than before, but I’m not judging myself for it.

The difference for me these days is that I know that I don’t have everything together and that’s okay.

  • Before I didn’t have everything together and I thought that meant something was wrong with me.
  • When I had that belief I thought I had to have food to distract myself.
  • Once I solved my weight problem, I needed people to distract me from thinking something was wrong with myself.

It’s normal to have bad days and it’s normal to not love yourself at every moment, instead of beating myself up for it, I question what is going on. I understand that the mess of life is just part of life.

I want to figure out how to do that for the members.

Process:

I think many people are still overeating because they aren’t accepting that overeating is part of their process.  Instead, people focus on the shame and judgment over the overeats.

  • Focus on what’s driving the overeats.
  • Clean the mess up.
  • Then see if you’re overeating anymore.

I was at an event and everyone wanted to go out afterwards.  In the past, I would have gone because it was expected.  Instead, I expected myself to be tired and not want to be around people. I went back to the hotel instead.

I’m craving more alone time because in those quiet moments, it’s not a shit show anymore. I notice my feelings, but don’t judge them anymore.

  1. One of the lessons I’ve learned is to not try to change how I’m thinking.
    • Be aware of it.
    • Sit with it.
    • Be okay with it.
  2. I want to notice the conversation I’m having with myself when I’m alone at night or after a long day.
    • The more I notice what I’m thinking without judgment, the more I’m changed my thinking on accident.
    • It’s become more natural to go “I think I want to think something different, I don’t want to think this right now.”

Give yourself the opportunity to see yourself performing in a way that feels differently than you normally do:

We tend to start really hard and then bomb out

  • Do it slower.
  • More deliberate.
  • In a purposeful way.

I want my members to know that it’s okay to lose weight slower than you think you need to, to make smaller changes than you think are required, and to do it easier than you think it should be.

 

Updates:

*The six month coaching program with me closes on October 28th.

*All the 2020 events are on the website for my members.

*The new purse-sized planner will release the first week of November for members.

*Members can print out or order the full-sized planner now.

*There are exciting changes in November.  There will be a monthly member call with me called “The Recovery Worksheet Lab.”

*Handling the Holidays will be start in November in the No BS Weightloss Program.

 

Links

www.pnptribe.com

www.pnp411.com

www.pnptribeshow.com

12 Comments

  1. Suzanne on February 25, 2020 at 9:53 AM

    How do you do this free. Are the clients you refer to paying clients. Is the tribe you refer to your clients or the rest of us who signed up for your feee course. I am thoroughly enjoying everything about your course. I am lifetime with Weight watchers, but 10 lbs keeps slipping on and off. It doesn’t seem like a big deal to someone who has a lot of weight to lose and I commend them for doing it. It is everything to do with accountability. And you have given me that. I am just starting my lifetime journey with you. Thank you.



  2. Tara on October 30, 2019 at 7:02 AM

    I LOVE YOU!! My friend recommended your podcast when I told her my doctor had put me on a “well known diet plan” to lose weight in hopes of an operation for my knees. I am following their plan but using your advise with my mindset and planning, etc. I’ve lost 10lbs in the 5wks I’ve been on the plan. Making little changes, planning the next day ahead, or a couple of days as I do meal prep so have lunch for 3-4 days ready.

    What you say just makes sense and it’s definitely helping me. Plus being a Bama gal in London, UK…listening to you just makes me feel a little less homesick <3



  3. Taffy on October 19, 2019 at 4:19 PM

    How is it that you have no extra skin hanging! You are so beautiful but curious with all the weight you lost where did your skin go?



  4. Linda on October 18, 2019 at 5:50 PM

    Awesomeness learning to do self check and forgiving myself. Thank you for confirming and bringing awareness.



  5. Carolann Cary on October 18, 2019 at 6:28 AM

    Great stuff. When we nourish ourselves with the resources for change , we have such an opportunity to go through he steps without feeling alone. Fear of feeling lost keeps us being lost! Thanks for the resources and the voice!!!



  6. Arlene on October 17, 2019 at 9:45 PM

    Thankyou for sending this e-mail emotional. Eating is my problem



  7. Maureen Johnson on October 17, 2019 at 6:49 PM

    Hi, I’d love to waitlist for tribe in January where can I sign up.



  8. Bobbi Jo on October 17, 2019 at 5:46 PM

    I cannot find the wait list, can you direct me?



  9. Ninfa Lear on October 17, 2019 at 2:44 PM

    How do I sign up to become a member. I just started listening to your podcast and I N going through your free course but I want all the things. Please let me know. Thanks!

    Ninfa Lear



    • Nancy R. on October 17, 2019 at 4:48 PM

      She will open the tribe for new members in January.



  10. Brenda Godfrey on October 17, 2019 at 12:39 PM

    Be kind to yourself is my biggest lesson



  11. Linda Carson on October 17, 2019 at 11:01 AM

    I just recently found you and have have started listening to podcasts. I love them. I have 135 to lose and have lost 86 but I was getting to the point where I could feel myself have more fuck it moments and your podcasts have helped work past those get on with my journey. Your free course helped recognize how I was sabotaged myself. So thank you.



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Hi, I'm Corinne

I lost 100 pounds and get what it is like to be overweight and feel defeated. I did a complete mental and physical transformation and now I teach women how to do the EXACT same thing. You can get started today with the free course.