It always happens when you start a “diet.” You go to a dinner with a PLAN in your head and someone walks up with a tray of junk and says “have you tried this?” What do you say?
“I can’t eat that!”
“I don’t eat that!”
In my private Facebook training groups, I coach people to lose weight using my “expert” personal trainer skills and experience as a chick who has lost 100lbs. My job is to help them navigate life’s bull crap when it comes to changing how they eat, behave, and work out each day. Today I posted this quote from Hal Higdon to start a coaching session.
Think positive. You are a special person. Reward yourself with self-praise as you achieve each interim goal en route to the marathon.
– Hal Higdon
I asked my groups to comment how this applies to the long journey of losing weight. One of my dear LOSERS (37lbs since Jan.) who reminds me of ME back in the day said…
What is tough for me is that the temptation of food is always around and I can so easily make the wrong choices. I read today that you should practice saying “I don’t eat that” instead of “I can’t eat that”. The rewards are great with weight loss. Clothes fit better, my self-confidence rises, and I feel good.
I thought about the statements and realized at some point in my 100lb weight loss that I finally quit saying I can’t and started saying I don’t. Think about that. When you can’t have something people want to rescue you with “food” and crap because who wants to see someone they care about unable to enjoy something?
When you DON’T eat things it’s a whole new game. YOU start believing in YOU. You now make a choice about what goes in your mouth. You sound assertive and confident in your CHOICE to be healthy and fit. People also hear this and it’s like a “whoa” moment. “Wow, she doesn’t eat this. Well, OK.”
Now you might get asked why and that’s OK. Time to really own up, y’all. Look people in the eyes and say I decided health is more important than a chicken wing or slice of cake. It’s RARE I bust that out but if someone is brave to food push then I’m damn sure brave enough to defend my right to DON’T take the bait.
What else DON’T the Queen do? It’s funny, until today I never thought about it. But here it goes and this is awesome therapy. I suggest everyone do it because you’ll feel bad ass when you make your list of things you DON’T do.
- I don’t miss my workouts for anything outside of a TRUE emergency or exhaustion. These things happen maybe once every couple of months.
- I don’t have emergencies on a weekly basis. If my life is full of emergencies I’m just a lazy planner.
- I don’t eat crap I don’t want. If I’m having stuff that takes me off my goals every few days I’m a lazy prepper and not planning ahead. Again, see emergency line.
- I don’t buy crap at the store. If it’s unhealthy it’s got NO PLACE in my child’s body FIRST and mine second.
- I don’t avoid treats. Treats are SPECIAL like holidays. There’s about 13-14 of those a year minimal. When I treat on all of those plus anniversaries and such I’m getting plenty!
What about you? Are you filled with Can’ts or Don’ts?