I read this from Joel Osteen today…
If you’re going to reach your highest potential, you have to make up your mind that you’re not going to be upset because things aren’t happening on your timetable.
Ladies…this is so true in many ways. Not just our weight but in life. I’m DEFINITELY getting a lesson in that right now. It’s been a tough week for me emotionally as I am working on many things for my family right now. I have to remember that God has his own timeline. Things will work they way they should and I just have to trust we will be led to make the right choices, act accordingly and BE PATIENT. I was not blessed with patience. I’m a make it happen now girl and waiting for things to unfold is HARD for me.
With our weight we get so mad that things don’t happen fast enough. Women tell me all the time…
- I only lost .5 lbs this week.
- I only lost inches this month.
- I do feel better, sleep better, and am more relaxed BUT why won’t the scale move faster???
We get worked up that the changes we make for a healthier lifestyle, one we can live with versus suffer through, aren’t dropping weight like a Biggest Loser. We want extreme results but don’t want to do extreme work. When you work with me we focus on SLOW changes that don’t overwhelm you but that comes with a price! You ain’t going to drop 5lbs a week so get over it!
Then, when we feel like we are making lots of changes and not getting the results we want RIGHT NOW we throw a monkey wrench into the plan (weekend of bad eating, extra glass of wine, BLT’s, dining out more than dining in) wondering why it keeps taking longer and longer. If you don’t want to starve while you lose weight then you have to eat right below a deficit. That means you don’t get a cheat day, cheat meal, or bonus treats a few times a week! I’m not a fan of cheat anything but let’s say you do get one. You NEED one when you do something extreme all week. You don’t NEED one when you are simply living healthier and barely in deficit!
The point of losing slowly is to teach you balance and how to live after you lose it. There’s no going back to the old ways. Get over it. That’s how you got HERE! Why would you think you can lose weight in the extreme then turnaround and live extremely unhealthy? Those of you who yo-yo your life away that’s exactly what you are doing.
Think of losing weight as the time you have to do a lot of foundation work in order to start the remodeling.
Y’all came to me because the foundation has a big ole crack compromising the whole house. Before you start picking out tiles, paint, and furniture, you have to dig up some earth, fix the crack and do a lot of work that ain’t nobody going to see. Heck, you won’t even see it immediately. Foundation work isn’t a low cal, work your ass off in the gym plan. It’s learning to drink water when you don’t, moving your body in a way that doesn’t piss you off right out of the gate, adding some fruit, letting go of one bag of chips a day, and just a lot of little things that add up over time.
Most women I work with, myself included, aren’t train wrecks. They need repair work. I’ll use me as an example.
Last month I decided to start working towards my 40th birthday! I’m ready to shed some vanity pounds. I live healthy and work hard. But, I live a comfortable lifestyle. Although I tightened up a few things last month and trained like a BEAST I only lost .8lbs. No kidding. No it wasn’t adding muscle and no I didn’t lose inches instead. I’m being realistic with you. I didn’t TRY hard enough.
Most days I had an extra snack I didn’t need. I’m talking apples people. Are they bad for you? No. If you aren’t really hungry do you NEED it to lose weight? No.
I trained hard: boxing twice a week, running 25 miles a week, lifting 2-3 days a week, dance class twice a week, private lessons in dance, and doing a some yoga and conditioning work for an upcoming certification. It was a hard month! You can’t out train a poor diet.
Weekends I treated with wine 2-3 days. I never ate crazy, most of the time logged every bit and stayed in calories. I just used all those exercise calories on a calorie source my body can’t use for anything “good” other than a buzz.
And, we spent four days in Vegas. I drank my way through it and had one order of fries a day, ate plain salads, and protein. Did I mention I drank wine?
What the month showed me is that when I want results I have to put in the work on the food. I have to eat cleaner, eat more timely so I’m not eating too much at night, and cut out the wining all weekend! I’m keeping one day but not a weekend of whoop whoop!
You see, I have to work on the foundation. Before I can get the scale and inches to drop I have to make sure I’m not fooling myself that I’m working hard. Sure I eat clean but too much clean food doesn’t get results. Sure I can exercise enough to burn off wine but that wine doesn’t burn efficiently in my body. I need to learn to be a touch hungry and not rely on my evening snacks to relax me and put me to bed.
My timeline is not my body’s timeline as the quote was stating. WE have to learn to trust the processes that bring us to whatever goals we want. If it’s losing weight then it’s all those little changes your trainer asks you to make. If it’s learning to be comfortable in your body it’s trusting the changes you will go through will lead to mental peace. The key is we have to TRUST. That’s not always easy for us but it’s probably the biggest step in losing weight. You gotta trust a lot of stuff to get the prize.
I’ll be honest, it’s HARD for me to go into loss mode. Like really hard because I love my lifestyle. But right now I want to look and feel so good for my 40th that it’s worth the short term sacrifice. My goal is to lose it the way I will want to maintain it just like I tell you girls. No starving but I am following pre-planned menus and cutting back my fun nights with Chris. We are going back to one and spending the other 15 weekends doing things we need to do: work around the house, seeing some plays with Logan and more. Only time will tell if I am ready for all this. I think I am and this week has gone great. I’d love any advice, love, and support I can get from all of you who read my blog and if you want I am not shy about chronicling what I do if you ask.