I have a theory why dieting is hard for some and easier for others.
If you are like me you have these thoughts more often than you would like to admit.
Thinking about food is so exhausting and I want to not think.
I just want this to be easy.
I hate how I have to “think” about everything all the time.
Let me tell you this…those are thoughts that AIN’T going away! Period.
Quit wanting them go away.
I’ve been maintaining a 100 pound weightloss for 12 years. Only 10-30 times a day do I think like this.
But, I don’t feel exhausted by it. I don’t feel mad, angry, or like it’s unfair either.
I accepted a long time ago this was part of the deal. I had a lot of thoughts that would never go away.
And that’s OK.
I don’t need to fight them. I just need to handle them like a boss.
If I know those thoughts SHOWING UP are a fact of my life, THEN I get to DECIDE what to do with them.
Thinking crappy, shitty thoughts about my body, my ability to mother, what kind of friend I am, my hair, my weight are just there.
Just like the shirt I am wearing, the color of my walls, or the size of my yard.
Until I decide what I want to think about those CERTAIN and GIVEN thoughts it doesn’t matter.
And that’s what makes dieting hard for you and keeping weight off easy for me.
Those thoughts do not become painful until you start getting pissed they are there to begin with.
The PAIN and FRUSTRATION you feel is not those thoughts. It’s how you THINK about them that sucks.
Really wrap your brain around this.
Each day I know my brain is going to tell me how hard things are. I’m always going to notice food, think if I only I was naturally thin, you name it.
But then I notice my shitty thought like I notice my shirt. I decide right then, “I’m always supposed to have these thoughts.”
When I think I am supposed to have those crappy thoughts I feel normal. Not broken.
And feeling normal allows me to make good decisions. And good decisions confirm that I’m always supposed to think bat shit crazy things and be OK.
I prove to myself that thoughts are only as powerful as I make them out to be.
What I see my clients do is what I used to do back at 250 pounds.
My shitty thoughts would pop up and immediately I would think, “I will never get out of feeling like a failure.”
The frustration and hopeless would land.
And then I would quit on myself. I would eat. Too much.
Totally proving I would always feel like a failure.
When you have your crappy thoughts…
What are you going to choose to think? Are you going to fight or are you going to just take the lead?
Decide now what that answer will be and commit to it. Take your power back over your own mind.
Allow it to throw anything it wants at you. And then decide it’s fine. It’s just a thought and here’s what we are going to think, feel and do.
I can promise you this…what you choose to think will decide how far you take your weight loss.